Updated: November 30, 2019
Originally Published: February 16, 2018
The night my partner and I decided to part ways, I reached out to my close friend, Sarah. We spoke for hours, and by the end of our conversation, I felt a surge of strength that I hadn’t experienced in ages. The following day, I texted my sisters at 2 a.m., asking if they could join me for lunch. It’s not something I typically do, especially as a busy mom, but I needed their support. They adjusted their plans and showed up for me. As we shared hugs and headed to our cars, I began to believe that I could navigate this journey.
A few weeks later, Sarah planned a weekend getaway for us. We traveled to Vermont, indulging in massages and junk food, and I returned feeling loved and empowered. Even though she lived five hours away, I knew she was still there for me. I cried on the ride home, wishing we could see each other more often, thinking, “If only I could have her by my side, I could really tackle this.”
Life has a strange way of bringing people together during tough times. As I allowed myself to feel the discomfort of my situation, old friends resurfaced in my life. I reconnected with three close friends who had also experienced divorce. Would we have rekindled our friendships without this shared experience? Probably not. The Universe has a way of providing what we need, and they appeared when I needed support the most.
I’ve also formed bonds with some amazing women online, many of whom I met through shared stories about divorce. One friend, in particular, has become a weekly companion. We discuss our dating lives, sharing screenshots and ensuring our paths don’t cross in the dating pool. It feels like we’re back in college, and that connection is healing and uplifting.
Every few months, I host an all-ladies gathering at my home, where we enjoy sweets, wine, and laughter. These friendships have been a lifeline for me. I’m not sure if they understand the impact they’ve had on my life, but I hope I’ve been able to offer them some support in return.
Having girlfriends who understand, whether they’ve been through divorce or not, instills a sense of confidence that I can handle this. We all have moments of doubt when we question our worth, but the presence of these women reassures us that we can face whatever comes our way.
My friendships have always been important to me, guiding me through high school, college, marriage, and motherhood. However, their influence has been most profound during my divorce. It has been the hardest challenge I’ve faced, and there were times when I had to reach out for help, even when it felt uncomfortable. Those who are meant to be in your life will always uplift you when you’re unable to stand strong on your own.
I consider myself incredibly fortunate to be surrounded by such love and resilience as I transition into my new life. For more insights on navigating life’s challenges, check out this post on home insemination or explore resources on pregnancy and home insemination.
In summary, my friends have played a crucial role in my healing process during my divorce. Their unwavering support has reminded me of my strength and ability to face challenges, making the journey a little less daunting.