Thank you for making me feel like an inadequate mother.
It was 5 a.m. and I had barely slept, cradling my baby who was restless but not in pain. He had grown accustomed to being held during the night, and I was utterly exhausted, on the brink of losing my sanity. Desperate for some comfort, I turned to my trusty smartphone and my Facebook parenting group, where women I didn’t know congregated to offer each other advice in the wee hours. Without this group, I don’t know how I would have navigated those sleepless nights, breastfeeding struggles, or toddler meltdowns. There’s a certain solace in knowing that you’re not alone—other moms are dealing with the same challenges.
But as with any group, there’s always that one person who seems to revel in negativity.
After posting my heartfelt plea at 5 a.m. about my struggle to get my baby to sleep, I received a mix of helpful tips and sympathetic messages. I was grateful for the support—until I read this nasty comment: “That poor baby, crying for an hour!”
Excuse me? Thanks for that, really. Just what I needed to hear: that I was doing something wrong, that I was somehow a bad mom for wanting a few minutes of sleep. As if my attempts to soothe my child had been inadequate, simply because I had run out of options and resorted to letting him cry for a bit.
What exactly did you think I was doing, Unsupportive Mom? Did you imagine I was lounging with a cocktail as my baby wailed in the background? Did you think I was blissfully unaware, having turned off the monitor to enjoy a quiet moment at a cafe?
The truth is, I was buried under the covers, staring at the baby monitor with teary eyes, feeling utterly helpless and broken-hearted. I reached out for support, and instead of offering a helping hand, you chose to shame me. Think about that for a moment; it’s disheartening.
As new mothers, we constantly question ourselves, wondering if we’re making the right choices. We argue with our partners, receive unsolicited advice from everyone, and live in fear of inadequacy. Instead of supporting each other through this challenging journey, you chose to magnify my insecurities.
In the end, we need to uplift each other, not tear one another down. So, let’s embrace the struggles together—because motherhood can be hard enough without the added pressure of judgment.
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To summarize, let’s focus on fostering a supportive community where we can share our stories and lift each other up instead of shaming one another.
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