The baby’s wailing fills the air, while I’m in the kitchen trying to prepare dinner. The dog is having a meltdown, barking at who knows what—perhaps a speck of dust or a butterfly a world away. The trash can is overflowing, despite my reminders to you to take it out. As I drop an eggshell onto the floor, it triggers a chaotic race among us. I manage to scoop it up first, with egg white dripping down my arm, while the dog continues his ruckus and our daughter bursts into a new round of cries.
Frustration boils inside me. I demand to know whose fault it is that I’m drowning in this domestic chaos. You merely shrug from your spot on the couch, your superpower being your uncanny ability to block out everything that isn’t a sportscaster’s voice. I raise my voice again, fueled by anger and the urge to provoke you, knowing all too well how to push your buttons. You tune me out, and I feel a familiar sting of being unheard.
As I bang pots and pans together and slam cabinet doors, making a symphony of irritation, you finally rise to grab the trash bag. Before you exit, you deliver your verdict: it’s my fault because I married you.
That comment hit hard, and I cried out of sheer frustration. While washing the dishes, tears streamed down my face. The anger swelled inside me, burdening me throughout the night. I replayed every grievance, mentally rehashing arguments and cursing you silently. But as the water in the sink cooled, my fury gradually faded. I’ve learned that dwelling on anger only breeds loneliness.
In the shower, I reflected on you, realizing how stressed you must be. I thought about my tendency to overextend myself, taking on burdens that nobody expects me to carry. When you asked me to sit with you last week, I brushed you off, claiming there wasn’t enough time, when in fact, time is all we have right now.
I considered the portrayals of marriage we see on screens and social media—idealized images framed in perfect lighting. Then I thought about us, the reality of our life, egg on my face included. Because you were right. For better or for worse, I chose you. Through sickness that crept in quietly and health that allows you to thrive, I committed to you—flaws and all.
I embraced the parts of you that snore, that take their sweet time to decide, that forget mundane chores, that challenge me with spicy food. The part that walked me to class in high school and assured me we’d marry one day. The part that knows how to calm my racing thoughts, that sings and dances just to see me smile. The part that has traveled the world with me yet always makes me feel at home. I chose you.
Today feels different, brighter. The mornings often do. I watch as our daughter runs toward you, a mirror image of yourself. You scoop her up effortlessly, and I can’t help but smile. You pull me in close, and together we gaze at another moving truck—another chapter of our lives ahead. I know it will be tough and filled with uncertainty, but deep down, I wouldn’t want anyone else by my side. Leaning into you, I feel gratitude wash over me, and I quietly thank God for choosing you.
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In summary, marriage can be messy and challenging, but it’s in those moments of chaos that we often discover our deepest connections. In the end, it’s all about the love we choose to nurture every day.
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