As we navigate parenting today, it’s essential to rethink the way we communicate with our children regarding safety. I recall my own childhood vividly—at 11 years old, I spent countless hours at a rope swing by the Provo River in rural Utah, accompanied only by friends. We weren’t supervised; we were just kids pushing boundaries. We executed flips and jumps, often from considerable heights, and we learned to manage risks without anyone telling us to “be careful.” Those carefree days of the mid-90s seem worlds away from the parenting landscape we face now.
With my own 11-year-old son, I sometimes wonder if allowing him to venture out unsupervised would make headlines. He and I once watched a classic movie where, just before the young protagonists embarked on an adventurous quest, he asked, “Where are their parents?” It’s a stark reminder that the dynamics of childhood have shifted immensely, and the concept of “helicopter parenting” has become the norm rather than the exception. I often find myself reflecting on how this impacts children’s development and their capacity to handle future challenges.
Research supports the idea that limiting children’s opportunities for exploration can lead to increased anxiety. A study conducted by researchers from Macquarie University’s Centre for Emotional Health, along with teams from the University of Amsterdam and the University of Reading, surveyed families with preschool-aged children in Australia and the Netherlands. The findings revealed that parents who encouraged their children to explore their limits had kids who were less prone to anxiety disorders.
Promoting Risk-Taking in Children
So, how can we promote risk-taking in children while still keeping a watchful eye? Ellen Hartley, a researcher who has studied this topic for over a decade, suggests we move away from the phrase “be careful.” I admit I use this phrase often. Just the other evening, while cooking, I told my son to “be careful” while using a potato peeler; however, the actual danger was minimal.
Hartley identifies six categories of risky play:
- play involving heights;
- high-speed play;
- use of sharp tools;
- play near hazardous elements;
- roughhousing;
- play where children can become lost.
She encourages parents to reconsider their language and respond thoughtfully rather than reflexively saying “be careful.”
For instance, if your child is climbing a tree, consider saying, “What’s your next move?” or “Take your time.” If they’re playing with a stick, instead of taking it away, try saying, “Sticks need space” or “Make sure you have room.” These phrases empower children, helping them feel more in control and encouraging them to think critically about their actions. This approach nurtures confidence and self-trust, essential skills for navigating life’s challenges.
Encouraging Calculated Risks
Isn’t this what we all need? To take calculated risks? By adjusting how we discuss safety with our children, we equip them with the ability to assess situations thoughtfully rather than instilling fear. This transition in communication can be a valuable gift, allowing them to embrace growth—whether it’s climbing higher in a tree or taking bold steps in life.
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In summary, encouraging children to explore their boundaries while providing thoughtful guidance can foster resilience and independence. By changing our language surrounding safety, we can help our children develop the confidence to take risks in a safe and controlled manner.