During the summer months, my partner, Jake, has a deep love for grilling. He’s not just passionate; he’s practically an enthusiast. He experiments with various recipes and splurges on high-end grilling gadgets. There have been nights when he’s stayed up late preparing smoked brisket for a gathering the next day.
As a vegetarian, I often miss out on the deliciousness of his grilling skills, but there’s one major perk — he takes charge of the cooking and grocery shopping. And honestly, that’s music to my ears.
Jake’s enthusiasm for grilling means he has particular tastes and specific grocery requests. To spare me from the lengthy discussions about the merits of different cuts of meat or why we need a special type of charcoal, he handles the grocery shopping himself.
And let me tell you, he excels at it.
Most weekends, especially during summer, he heads out with a long list of our weekly essentials and returns with bags overflowing with everything we need — plus a few surprises. Sure, he sometimes forgets the reusable bags and occasionally brings home the wrong cereal (he prefers the bland kind, while the kids and I go for the sugary ones). Plus, he has a knack for splurging on exotic fruits that leave me scratching my head.
But I genuinely appreciate his grocery runs, even if I was left wondering what to do with the gigantic jackfruit he once brought home (seriously, what is a jackfruit?!). His grocery shopping means I can avoid the chaos of taking two hungry kids to the store right before dinner. It ensures he gets what he wants, and it sets a fantastic example for our sons that dads can and should be involved in household chores. It’s a win-win scenario.
But Jake doesn’t just shine in the grocery department; he’s also an incredible dad. He runs errands, feeds our kids, and drives them to baseball practice. While I’m usually the one handling these responsibilities due to his demanding job, whenever he can step in, he does so with great skill.
He takes our older son to piano lessons and somehow manages to get him to practice at home — a feat I can’t seem to achieve without some bribery. He navigates Target with our two children on weekends and somehow keeps his cool. He even manages to take both kids out to restaurants, where they engage in conversations about sports, Star Wars, and the stinkiness of each other’s farts. Yes, his approach differs from mine — in many ways — but he does it remarkably well.
While he might not be the best handyman (sorry, Jake), he holds his own when it comes to other household tasks. Sure, his towel-folding technique is questionable (read: wrong), and he struggles with getting his socks into the hamper, but he remembers to lay sweaters flat and hasn’t shrunk my T-shirts — a skill I seem to lack.
Too often, I hear women lamenting that their partners don’t contribute to household chores or that they mess things up when they do. I also hear stories of dads pretending they don’t know how to grocery shop or do laundry, hoping for a pass. Let’s put an end to that.
Gentlemen, stop acting like you’re clueless about household tasks. You’re not fools; you’re capable adults with jobs, families, and responsibilities. Step up and take a trip to the grocery store once in a while. You can do this, and your partner would truly appreciate your support. So, go out there and tackle the supermarket or the laundry — or both!
And to my fellow women, let’s ease up on micromanaging our partners. They are certainly capable. Parents may have different methods, but if it creates a better work-life balance and overall happiness, who cares? Unless, of course, we’re talking about towel folding. Because there’s definitely a right way to do that.
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Summary:
Dads can effectively manage grocery shopping and parenting duties just as well as moms. With their unique approaches, they can contribute significantly to household responsibilities, proving that both parents can share the load. Encouragement to support each other and embrace different styles can foster a happier family dynamic.