Being pregnant after 40 brings its own unique set of experiences. For me, the so-called “pregnancy glow” felt like an astonishing transformation—like a natural beauty treatment courtesy of pregnancy hormones! Despite the changes that come with age, one constant is the seemingly endless unsolicited advice and comments from everyone around you. If you happen to meet an expectant mother over 40, here are five things you should definitely avoid saying:
- I know someone who had an ‘Oops Baby’ too.
Oh, please spare me from the assumptions! Getting pregnant after 40 is no walk in the park; it often requires considerable planning and effort. This pregnancy has taken as much coordination as a space mission! - Did you know you’ll be nearly 60 when your child graduates?
Wait a minute, are you serious?! Yes, I can do the math—trust me, I had ample practice during the conception phase! And just imagine how vibrant I’ll look at my child’s graduation. People will be amazed by my energy and enthusiasm. - Wow! You’re really starting over.
How insightful of you to assume I’m abandoning my older children! There are usually more profound reasons behind the age gap, like career choices or personal struggles. But sure, let’s just go with the idea that I wanted to trade in the “older models.” - Well, your body isn’t 20 anymore.
Thanks for the reminder! I’ve spent two decades realizing that. But let’s consider how that experience translates into valuable traits like patience and confidence—definitely assets for this little one! - You’re almost old enough to be a grandmother.
Last time I checked, age alone doesn’t qualify you for the grandmother role. To be a grandmother, you need to be the mother’s mother. Believe me, my mom would fiercely defend her title!
As the saying goes, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” A mama-to-be over 40 doesn’t need reminders of her age or her pregnancy status. She’s likely spent plenty of time contemplating the realities of parenthood at this stage in life and might even share some fascinating insights if you’re open to listening. And while you’re at it, it wouldn’t hurt to compliment her on that “pregnancy glow”!
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In summary, being a mama-to-be over 40 comes with its own set of joys and challenges. Let’s aim to provide support rather than unsolicited advice, recognizing the unique perspectives these women have to offer.