Many of us experience that intense desire to expand our family, even when we know we should be focusing on the delightful chaos of our current little ones. I’ve seen various situations unfold as people grapple with this overwhelming urge to reproduce. Remember that eccentric cat lady? She likely began with the innocent wish for just one more furball. And every individual featured on reality shows about hoarding probably started with the intention of keeping just one extra item.
So, when that overwhelming urge strikes, here are some helpful do’s and don’ts to consider:
Do Engage in Physical Activity.
Channel that pent-up energy into something sporty. It’s a great way to burn off all that desire while reminding yourself of the toll that your previous children have taken on your body.
Don’t Start Acquiring Pets.
You know who you are. While puppies may be adorable, remember that they don’t even enjoy being hugged. Save yourself the expense and the perpetual mess of pet ownership by resisting the urge to adopt.
Do Relive Pregnancy Discomfort.
If you want a quick reminder of the challenges of pregnancy, try experiencing food poisoning. It’s a surefire way to keep your memories of morning sickness vivid.
Don’t Hold Any Newborns.
Seriously, step away from the baby! They may seem like bundles of joy, but remember, they grow up to be toddlers who can cause chaos.
Do Set Alarms for Nighttime Wake-Ups.
Wake yourself up every hour during the night and apply clamps to your nipples for 30 minutes. This is just a reminder of what those sleepless nights really entail.
Don’t Dwell on Old Baby Photos.
While those pictures may evoke a sense of nostalgia and make your uterus sing, remember that those cute babies will eventually grow up and engage in all sorts of mischief.
Do Look at Your Own Postpartum Photos.
Especially that one where you still look like you just battled Jabba the Hutt and are sporting a diaper! It’s a solid reminder of the reality of postpartum life.
Don’t Idealize Your Youngest Child as a Future Sibling.
They may not be as excited about a new baby as you think. Expect some jealousy and the occasional “Take them back!” comments.
Do Invite Pregnant Friends Over.
Their experiences may help ground you in reality. They can provide a dose of truth about pregnancy that could quench your baby fever.
Don’t Fall for the “I’m Not Complete” Fallacy.
You are already complete. Adding another child might increase the likelihood of having a family member resembling that quirky Uncle Bob.
Do Review Your Finances.
Imagine how much money you would lose by adding another child to your family—around $304,480 until they turn eighteen. Yikes!
Don’t Torment Yourself with What-Ifs.
Instead, cherish the children you already have and recognize how fortunate you are.
Do Write Down Your Life Goals.
Consider how another baby might disrupt your plans. If it would, focus on what you truly want to achieve.
Don’t Downplay the Major Life Change.
While some may argue that another child is just another “body in the bathtub,” be honest with yourself about the challenges. Remember the last time you woke up with something unspeakable in your hair?
If you feel a strong conviction for another little one, then go for it. Otherwise, if the real you isn’t ready for another child, keep this list handy as a reminder. And perhaps consider investing in some clamps or exploring options like intracervical insemination to help with your journey. For authoritative information on home insemination, check out this kit. Additionally, American Pregnancy offers great insights on pregnancy and donor insemination.
In summary, while the desire for another child can be strong, it’s essential to reflect on your current situation and aspirations before making such a significant decision.