Recently, I took my two kids to visit a friend, Sarah, before heading to work. As she opened the door, she greeted us with a smile and said, “Pardon the clutter.” The living room was filled with toys, books, and building blocks scattered in a way that only children can create. It was a sight I was all too familiar with from my own home just moments before.
While I can’t speak for Sarah, I know that “pardon the clutter” is often my own go-to phrase when I feel a tinge of embarrassment about my home. It’s what I say when I’m aware of how behind I am on household chores. I often imagine how other people maintain immaculate spaces—even in the most dreaded spots like behind the toilet (an area that’s never fun to clean).
Sarah, however, is a confident individual who may not have felt any of that anxiety while acknowledging her disarray. But if she did, I want her to understand the gratitude I felt when I arrived.
Before I even stepped inside, I was thankful that she was willing to look after my children while I focused on my writing. I appreciated having an adult to converse with, and I was excited that her boys would include mine in their fun. No amount of mess could diminish my positive feelings toward Sarah.
Once inside, I felt welcomed into her personal space. By sharing her chaos, she was inviting me into her world. The people I hold closest to my heart are those who see every part of me, from my messy hair and comfy sweatpants to my overflowing laundry baskets. I yearn to open up in that way with more friends, but I often find my pride standing in the way. It creates a false sense of protection, keeping out anyone who might judge my less-than-perfect home or my post-pregnancy appearance.
When another mom shows vulnerability by letting me see her untidy home, it truly feels like a compliment. I’m honored by that trust and wish she knew how much I admire her authenticity. So, if I visit you and your place is a bit chaotic, rest assured you’re in good company.
There’s no need for shame, mama. Don’t excuse the mess. We’ve all been there. For more insights into the journey of parenthood, check out this resource on home insemination techniques at intracervicalinsemination.com. And if you’re looking for guidance on home insemination, Make a Mom is an authority on the topic—definitely worth a look. For more extensive information on pregnancy treatments, WebMD is an excellent resource.
In summary, the messiness of our homes is often a reflection of the beautiful chaos of life and motherhood. Embracing this reality can foster deeper connections and remind us that we’re not alone in our experiences.