Parenting can be a wild ride, and sometimes, I find myself fantasizing about throwing a pillow or even giving my kids a playful nudge—just a little one, mind you. It doesn’t happen all the time, but let’s be honest: there are moments when my little ones can drive me to my wit’s end.
I’ve got fantastic kids who fill my life with joy. We adore our neighborhood, love our home, and appreciate our schools. My role as a stay-at-home parent who writes on the side brings fulfillment, both through big accomplishments and cherished everyday moments. My two kids, aged 6 and 3, are bright and curious—full of life, not out of control; chatty, yet thoughtful. I’m so proud of them.
But then there are those days. Like when my daughter bursts through the door after school, full of sass, refusing to take off her shoes. “I don’t care about your carpets,” she insists, her little face scrunching up in defiance. I calmly remind her, “Shoes off at the door, please.” When she gleefully flaunts a chocolate muffin, telling her brother he can’t have any, I gently instruct, “We don’t hurt others’ feelings in this family.” But when she snatches a toy from her baby brother’s hands and laughs in my face when I ask her to go to her room, well, let’s just say I sometimes feel the urge to give her a light swat.
I’ve been raised in a pacifist environment and even spent time as a teacher. I can’t stand violence, and I absolutely adore children. Yet, there are moments when I just want to let out my frustration.
No one prepares you for the challenges of parenthood. I never expected my friends and I would navigate the heartbreak of miscarriages. I didn’t foresee feeling like my energy is a zero-sum game; every ounce I give my kids feels like it’s taken from my own reserve. I didn’t anticipate the constant battle against impulses—suppressing the urge to say “be careful,” “that’s too messy,” or “do it this way.” And then there are the darker instincts.
“Don’t shake the baby.” Seems simple, right? But when the crying turns into a never-ending soundtrack, it’s tough. In those overwhelming moments, just getting the baby to quiet down can feel like the most crucial thing. It requires a lot of effort to step back and remember that the baby’s well-being is what truly matters.
With my older kids, even when I manage to maintain that perspective, I still feel that primal urge to lash out. It’s an instinct, like flinching when a ball heads straight for your face. Learning to stand there, calm and collected, takes practice.
Unfortunately, there’s no manual for this part of parenting. Classes focus on first aid and helping your children navigate the world outside. There’s little guidance on how to handle the tempest within when you feel like you could become the danger yourself.
Most of us learn on the job, finding ways to acknowledge our feelings without acting on them. Sometimes, we redirect that energy: kicking a toy, slamming a door, or even stepping outside to scream.
Child abuse is a terrible reality, one we must fight against with every ounce of self-control we can muster. Before I became a parent, I couldn’t understand how someone could cross that line. Now, I can see how easily frustration can spiral. I don’t hit my kids, but I understand the feelings behind it.
It sounds straightforward—just don’t do it. But trust me, it’s harder than it seems.
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In summary, parenting can sometimes push us to our limits, leading to feelings we never thought we’d have. It’s crucial to acknowledge these emotions and find healthy ways to cope with them.