Before becoming a parent, I thought I had it all figured out. I envisioned myself as the steadfast mom, impervious to the wails of a distressed child. But the moment my baby let out a heart-wrenching cry, I turned into a puddle of mush. The first time I attempted sleep training and let my little one cry for more than five minutes, I scooped him up and whispered endless apologies into his tiny ears.
While friends of mine were tucking their kids into bed before the evening TV shows, I was barely managing to keep my eyes open, wondering how they made it look so easy. I often found myself feeling like I was playing a never-ending game of catch-up, especially when they shared their “perfect” nap schedules at the park. Those stories always felt like a cruel trick, especially during those exhausting early days of parenting.
I attempted to make homemade baby food for my first child, but he only enjoyed it fresh. Once I froze it, he turned up his nose, leading me to abandon my culinary aspirations. I wasn’t exactly dishonest, but I certainly wasn’t forthcoming about the reality of our food situation. When another mom at the park scoffed at fruit pouches being “junk food,” I simply nodded along, wishing I could be as committed as she seemed.
My kids are little tornadoes, racing around the house until 9:30 or 10:00 PM. They thrive on a diet of spaghetti, broccoli, eggs, peas, hot dogs, and good ol’ peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. Don’t expect adorable school lunches from me—I’ve never put one together. I don’t volunteer at my son’s preschool or keep those “masterpieces” from our art sessions. I don’t have a baby book; just a bag filled with random keepsakes. My four-year-old knows every Nick Jr. theme song and has mastered the art of enabling the Wi-Fi on my phone to find his favorite YouTube videos. Meanwhile, my two-year-old daughter frequently exclaims phrases like “no way!” and “aww man!” with a flair that would make any parent chuckle.
But here’s the thing: I’m doing my best. Sure, my best might look like someone else’s worst, but that’s okay. For too long, I felt like I was simply coasting through parenthood, watching my pre-baby plans slip away. I compared myself to others and felt guilty for not measuring up. But when I look in the mirror and ask myself, “Am I a good parent?” I can confidently say yes.
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In summary, parenting is a journey filled with unexpected twists and turns. Embrace your unique style and remember that love is what truly counts.