This journey isn’t quite what I envisioned.
I anticipated fatigue. I thought I’d be exhausted, truly exhausted, but only for the initial months until my little one adjusted to a better sleep schedule (oh, how naive). I never expected this deep, relentless fatigue that could persist for years, leaving me wondering if I would ever feel fully rested again. I didn’t know about sleep regressions, nor did I foresee the countless sleepless nights due to teething, illnesses, transitions to big-kid beds, travel, and those mysterious noises that echo in the dark. And all of this multiplied with each new addition to our family.
I knew my body would transform. I readied myself for a softer silhouette, for changes that come with motherhood. What I didn’t expect was the emergence of eczema, new moles, and a shift in my hair texture. I was caught off guard by how unsettling it felt, like I had become a stranger in my own skin, the very body I thought I understood. Strength came unexpectedly, though—lifting babies, then toddlers, and eventually preschoolers has its perks. But I certainly did not anticipate the backaches that would accompany this newfound strength.
I thought I’d have it all figured out after my first child. I forgot that every baby is a unique individual, each with their own quirks and preferences. I didn’t remember that siblings, despite sharing genes, often have little in common. I was unprepared for the challenges that came with adding a second child. My tried-and-true methods of soothing fell flat, and my meticulously crafted schedule went out the window. I overlooked the fact that I had to build a new relationship with my daughter, while still nurturing the bond I had established with my son.
I anticipated a mix of good days and bad. Little did I know that the good days would shine so brightly, offering moments of joy that felt beyond my previous understanding. Conversely, I could not foresee how dark the bad days could be. There are times when I find myself sobbing, feeling as though I’m failing. Moments filled with overwhelming anger and resentment when my patience wears thin, or the sheer panic that surges when my child is unwell or injured.
I expected camaraderie among fellow parents. I wasn’t the first among my friends to become a parent, nor the last. I assumed it would be a joyful exchange of advice and playdates. Yet, I often feel isolated. Even with a partner who stands by me and a network of supportive friends and family, motherhood can feel like a solitary island at times.
I anticipated love, but the sheer depth and intensity of that love still astonishes me. What truly took me by surprise is the instinct to protect them—a drive even stronger than love itself. It’s the most daunting aspect of motherhood, honestly. Learning to loosen my grip and allow them to forge their own paths, even as they push against my protective instincts. I know it will hurt when they roll their eyes at my affectionate words or resist my touch. I’ll find myself standing on the sidelines, desperately trying not to intervene every time I perceive a risk they don’t see.
I expected love; I just didn’t realize how much it could hurt or what sacrifices it would require. Motherly love is a mix of exquisite beauty and profound sacrifice—it can be brutal, breathtaking, and even bankrupting.
This isn’t what I expected. It’s more challenging, more exhausting, and infinitely more beautiful. In essence, motherhood is more than I ever imagined.
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In summary, motherhood is an unpredictable journey filled with challenges, overwhelming love, and moments of pure joy. It is more than we expect, and it forever alters our lives in profound ways.
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