If you had told me what motherhood would entail while I was pregnant with my son, Lucas, I would have painted a picture filled with laughter, chatter, and endless curiosity. I imagined a home bustling with books and an inquisitive toddler asking a million questions. Fast forward to today, and the reality is strikingly different. My world with Lucas has become a realm of silence.
As someone who has always been expressive and articulate, this silence is almost deafening. Lucas was diagnosed with Childhood Apraxia of Speech (CAS), a condition that severely impacts his ability to communicate. In simple terms, he understands everything and knows how to form words in his mind, but there’s a disconnect in his brain when it comes to coordinating the muscles needed to speak. He is trapped in a world of thoughts and feelings, unable to express them verbally, which often leads to frustration and tears. It’s heartbreaking to witness him struggle to convey his needs and desires.
The future feels uncertain. We have consulted various pediatric specialists, from neurologists to speech therapists, all confirming that Lucas has an impressive cognitive ability and is not on the autism spectrum, which was my initial fear. Yet, the critical questions remain unanswered: Will he ever speak? How can we ensure he is understood? Should we teach him sign language, which we do, or introduce an iPad communication app? How do we approach basic milestones like potty training with a nonverbal child? Will he thrive in a regular school environment, or will he need special education? The list goes on.
This journey is not just about Lucas; it’s about our entire family. I often find myself torn between supporting my son and ensuring that my younger daughter, Mia, doesn’t miss out on experiences. There’s a looming worry that as they grow, Lucas may need Mia to advocate for him, voicing what he can’t express himself. I grieve for both of them, recognizing the challenges they will face in a world that may not always understand Lucas’s unique way of communicating.
Despite these challenges, our family is filled with love and resilience. I have discovered a newfound strength within me, one I didn’t know I possessed. Many nights, you can find me deep in research, seeking new therapies or educational options, determined to find the best path for my children. On tough nights, though, I sometimes find myself in tears, grappling with feelings of hopelessness. I understand the isolation that comes with not being able to communicate effectively, and those moments remind me of Lucas’s struggles. But each morning, I rise, wipe away the tears, and embrace my kids with all the love I can muster. I remind myself that I am a fighter; I will find a way.
There are glimmers of hope along this challenging journey. I am fortunate to have a network of supportive friends who uplift our family and keep laughter alive in tough times. My husband, a genuinely likable person, has passed on his charm to Lucas, who has a contagious grin and an innate kindness towards others. Lucas has formed a special bond with his friend, Ben, whose verbal skills are remarkable. The two share a beautiful friendship, where Ben narrates their adventures, helping Lucas navigate the world with joy, even if he can’t vocalize his thoughts.
I take pride in my parenting abilities. From breastfeeding to meal prepping, I embrace the chaos of motherhood. My history as an educator and my experiences with children have prepared me for this role. I’ve always known that my purpose was to be a mother, and I believe everything in my life has led me to be Lucas’s mom. Through any obstacle, I will fight for my child’s future.
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In summary, the journey through Childhood Apraxia of Speech is filled with silence, uncertainty, and perseverance. While the road is challenging, our family remains committed to finding solutions and nurturing a loving environment for both Lucas and Mia.
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