As I approached my thirtieth birthday, I experienced a moment of panic that many can relate to. Thirty felt like a milestone that marked the end of youth, especially after a decade filled with the whirlwind of my 20s—moving out, finding a partner, and starting a family. It’s easy to think that the exciting phase of life is behind you when you hit the big 3-0. However, I’ve come to realize that this couldn’t be further from the truth. My 30s have been a remarkable journey of self-discovery, and I couldn’t be happier. Here are ten insights that illustrate why this decade has become my favorite.
1. Body Positivity is Key.
While I don’t always love my body, I’ve grown to appreciate it most of the time. A surprise pimple or a bad hair day doesn’t throw me off balance anymore. My focus has shifted to maintaining a healthy lifestyle rather than fixating on perfection. I celebrate what my body can do and give myself grace.
2. No More Tolerance for Nonsense.
If I’m stuck in the dentist’s waiting room at 1:45 p.m. for a 1 p.m. appointment, I’m finding a new dentist. My time is precious, and I won’t waste it in places that don’t value it. If a restaurant takes too long to serve me, I’m out. Respecting my time is non-negotiable.
3. Quality Over Quantity in Friendships.
Transitioning from high school or college friendships to adult connections has taught me that having fewer, meaningful friendships is far more fulfilling. I cherish those who genuinely care about me, even if they are fewer than before.
4. Eating Freely.
In my 20s, I often stressed about calories and weight. Now, I embrace the “everything in moderation” philosophy. If I want to indulge in a slice of chocolate cake for dinner, I do so without guilt. It’s my body and my life; I’m ready to enjoy it.
5. Prioritizing Self-Care.
The all-nighters and excessive partying of my 20s are behind me. I’ve learned to recognize what my body and mind need—whether that’s a good night’s sleep or a workout to shake off lethargy. Listening to my body has become a vital part of my self-care routine.
6. Self-Appreciation is Important.
I still have my insecurities, but I generally feel pretty great about who I am. I know I’m a decent person with a good sense of humor and some unique talents. I understand my worth, and if someone doesn’t see it, that’s their loss.
7. Dreaming Bigger.
Instead of questioning my identity or purpose, I’m now focused on envisioning my future. The clarity I’ve gained allows me to channel my energy into pursuing my dreams rather than worrying about what I “should” be doing.
8. Understanding My Beliefs.
My religious and social justice views are now well-formed and grounded. I’ve done the research, and my parenting and relationship philosophies give me comfort when I have doubts. I’m open to other perspectives but confident in my beliefs.
9. Embracing My Flaws.
I may not be the best housekeeper, and I can be a bit short-tempered. While I strive to improve, I’ve accepted that some things about me won’t change. These quirks are part of what makes me unique, and I’ve let go of the stress surrounding them.
10. A Bright Outlook on the Future.
After the soul-searching of my 20s, I’m optimistic about what lies ahead. I feel capable of being a good parent and partner, and I believe I can contribute positively to the world. This sense of hope is empowering.
My 30s are proving to be an incredible decade, and I’ve heard from older women that it only gets better. While many of my peers may dread aging, I’m excited about the experiences, wisdom, and self-confidence that await me. Bring it on, life!
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In summary, entering my 30s has been a transformative experience filled with self-acceptance, deeper connections, and a clearer vision of my future. Each insight I’ve gained strengthens my confidence and optimism for what’s to come.