In today’s world, there’s a lot of discussion surrounding our right to voice those less-than-ideal feelings about parenting. How could we dare? What if, in five, ten, or even thirty years, our children stumble upon a post or tweet revealing our frustrations? Will they be devastated? After all, the internet is forever, and once it’s out there, it’s nearly impossible to erase. Is the fleeting relief of sharing our emotions worth the potential fallout? Are we merely prioritizing our feelings over theirs?
Absolutely not. We’re striving to survive.
Motherhood is undeniably challenging. While the blissful moments certainly overshadow the difficult ones, they don’t tell the whole story. If there’s a mother out there who has breezed through this journey without a single complaint, I would love to know her secret because it seems nearly impossible. Some mothers cope with substances, others with retail therapy, some with restrictive diets, and some with affairs. And then there are those of us who write. Which of these coping mechanisms do you think is most harmful to a family?
Our children need us now—they require our love, attention, and guidance at this very moment. If expressing our frustrations through a blog post or tweet helps us process those feelings and enables us to be more present for our families, then it’s worth it.
The love I hold for my children is unwavering. Every decision I make is rooted in how it affects them. They are my entire world, and I shower them with love daily. But am I perfect? Certainly not. More importantly, do they need to believe that I am flawless? If realizing that I found them annoying at times is the worst thing they encounter in life, then I believe they are incredibly fortunate. I’d even expect to be crowned Mother of the Millennium!
My writings, guest posts, anonymous confessions, and the book I authored may not resonate with everyone, and that’s perfectly fine. There’s an abundance of beautiful websites celebrating the ideal of motherhood, and you’re welcome to explore those—it’s your choice. However, it is not your place to dictate what I or anyone else should express. When a mother of a child with special needs confesses that she loves her kids but doesn’t always like them, it is not your role to chastise her. Such judgment is inappropriate both in playgrounds and on the internet.
I teach my kids that while it’s natural not to like everyone, treating everyone with kindness is essential. I encourage them to ignore things that don’t affect them personally, to respect others, and to mind their own business—basic lessons we all learned from our parents long ago, yet seem to forget.
Of course, social media adds a new layer to parenting that our generation is uniquely navigating. It’s crucial to think about the words we share and feel confident in our choices, knowing our children might read them someday. Personally, I trust that we will have instilled enough love and support that they will be able to handle a few sarcastic posts.
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Summary:
In the digital age, mothers often express their frustrations online, sparking debates about the appropriateness of such sharing. While some may criticize this openness, it’s a coping mechanism for many. Motherhood is challenging, and expressing these feelings can ultimately help mothers be more present for their families. It’s vital to embrace the reality of parenting, allowing room for imperfections without judgment.
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