I have a confession: I’m not concerned about the causes of autism. Not even a little.
The reason is simple—I don’t feel the need to assign blame or seek closure regarding my child’s autism. While I may occasionally need a nap, I don’t require exhaustive explanations or theories. Like Bob Seger suggests, I’ve “turned the page” on that topic.
Why This Perspective?
You might wonder why I adopt this seemingly self-centered perspective. The answer is straightforward—it’s about survival. I have an array of responsibilities to manage, and I prefer to leave scientific inquiries to the researchers. They don’t come to my home to help with everyday tasks like doing laundry or loading the dishwasher, so I’ll allow them to focus on their studies while I search for new recipes for my slow cooker.
For Future Families
What about future families who may find themselves in similar situations? I understand your concerns. I have come to know several families who are also navigating the challenges of autism. It’s difficult to witness this journey for those we care about, and it’s clear that Hallmark has yet to produce an appropriate card for such moments. However, I choose to concentrate on my own child and the practical steps I need to take. I’m always open to offering support and sharing helpful tips, but I believe it’s far healthier for any parent to spend time engaging in lighthearted conversations about current events or popular shows rather than delving deep into medical research. Sometimes, we must give our minds a break from the “All autism. All the time” dialogue.
Facing New Challenges
My son is now ten years old, and I have more pressing matters to address. We’re facing the imminent transition to middle school, and I recently noticed changes in him—like the onset of puberty, including hair growth and, shall we say, a distinctly teenage odor. I anticipate challenges ahead, such as teaching him grooming habits. He still struggles with basic tasks like writing his name, and I certainly don’t have the time to sift through countless articles about autism causes. With everything happening, like remembering to defrost dinner, I can’t afford to get lost in research; I need practical solutions, not theoretical discussions.
Closing the Chapter
If you’re still grappling with the question of what may have caused your child’s autism, I sympathize. However, I’ve made the choice to close that chapter for my own well-being, and it has significantly improved my outlook.
Despite the structure that routines bring, I have found greater freedom in this decision. I’m not suggesting that everyone should adopt my perspective; as we say in New Jersey, “You do you.” However, consider shifting your focus away from this singular issue—you might find it liberating.
Additional Resources
For more insights on navigating parenthood, including topics on pregnancy and home insemination, check out this excellent resource from Medline Plus. Additionally, if you’re interested in self-insemination options, visit Make a Mom for authoritative information.
Conclusion
In summary, my experience has taught me that prioritizing practical concerns over the quest for understanding the causes of autism has led to greater happiness and fulfillment in parenting.