Let’s get one thing straight: I judge everyone I encounter. Yes, you read that right. If we’ve shared a space at a gathering, you can bet I’ve formed an opinion about your behavior. Whether we’ve communicated online, be it in a professional context or personal chat, I’ve assessed your responses. I even find myself judging strangers — in the checkout line at the grocery store, wandering through Target, or stuck in traffic.
It’s a non-stop cycle of observation and judgment on my part. Some might label me as overly critical, but that’s not the case. My judgments aren’t aimed at the everyday actions of individuals; rather, they target those who propagate negativity and unfairness in our world. When I see someone deriding a parent struggling to raise a challenging child, or a couple simply wishing to celebrate their love, or anyone expressing their political beliefs, I feel compelled to judge the naysayers who dare to cast stones.
Ah, the irony of our digital age! The rise of the internet and social media has transformed the art of judgment. We no longer need to whisper behind closed doors; instead, we unleash our opinions from behind screens and pseudonyms, often with little regard for the humanity of those we critique. The anonymity of online platforms, combined with the instant gratification of a tweet or a comment, has created a culture ready to vilify at a moment’s notice.
Consider the mother whose child had a tragic encounter at a zoo. Before the dust settled on her nightmare, online trolls were quick to launch their attacks. Similarly, the parents who suffered a devastating loss during a family outing found themselves in the crosshairs of public outrage. What has happened to our empathy? Why is it acceptable to respond with cruelty in the wake of someone else’s suffering?
This is why I judge — and I do so with fervor. I have deep sympathy for those parents, and I constantly pray that I won’t make a blunder that turns into a public spectacle. Every time I drive away from a parking space, I hold my breath, hoping I don’t miss a child in my rearview. Dining out with my kids fills me with anxiety about potential emergencies. These parents never intended to hurt their children; they simply wanted to enjoy a day out. While I wish them healing, I also feel for the haters who choose to be cruel. They need compassion, sure, but they also deserve a wake-up call about their behavior.
So yes, I do judge people based on their treatment of others. A person’s character is often reflected in their manners and how they respond under pressure. We all have off days, and I get that; however, if you consistently lash out at those you don’t know or criticize their choices, I will judge you — no second chances in my court.
Parenting is challenging — life itself is a struggle. We all face our battles daily, but that doesn’t give anyone a pass to be unkind just because they feel like it when they log onto social media. Being a Judgy McJudgerson only serves to make you appear sanctimonious. So, let’s all take a moment to think before we type. Imagine walking a mile in someone else’s shoes before joining the mob mentality. How about you step away from your screen and engage in face-to-face conversations instead? Save your judgments for the political circus and leave the decent parents alone.
You might have heard the phrase “Judge not, lest ye be judged.” Maybe we should tweak it to “Just be nice and don’t be an asshole.” I think we’d see a softer, kinder world as a result.
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Summary:
We often judge others, but it’s crucial to reflect on how we treat people amidst their struggles. Compassion should guide our judgments, especially when we witness someone facing hardship. Let’s strive for kindness instead of criticism and remember that we’re all navigating tough paths.
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