Picture this: ten little girls perched on folding chairs under my porch awning. My daughter, Zoey, was celebrating her fifth birthday with all the fanfare a child could desire. Each girl wore a sparkling tiara, while Zoey flaunted a long wig that she insisted made her look “like a glamorous princess.” The temperature? A sweltering 95 degrees.
Honestly, I can only imagine that hell resembles a little girl’s birthday bash.
My partner, Lisa, and I were completely outnumbered. The kids knew it, too. At times, they would split into factions—one group darting into the yard while the others stormed into the house. They would work together, converging around the birthday cake, using their combined forces to overpower their tiny fingers as they clawed at the frosting.
The entire party felt like a battle to maintain order—preventing them from either tearing up the garden or exploring the toilet. A friend of mine once worked in a rehabilitation center, and I couldn’t help but recall his stories of managing those in recovery as I tried to wrangle these little girls.
Once the cake was served and devoured, I turned my back to set up the princess piñata. When I looked back, the girls had practically devoured the remnants of Zoey’s birthday cake, leaving only a drool-soaked mess.
The piñata was intended to resemble Cinderella, but honestly, it just looked like a lady in a yellow dress swinging from a rope. We had purchased it with good intentions, but now we were about to hang a representation of a woman and beat it with sticks until its insides spilled out. Quite disturbing.
Earlier that day, I had asked Zoey why she wanted to hit Cinderella, to which she replied, “She’s a bad princess.”
“Really? Is that how you punish bad princesses?”
With her soft blue eyes gazing up at me, she simply said, “Yup!”
It felt all a bit morbid. I felt like I was failing as a dad, but didn’t want to dampen the festivities, so I proceeded to hang that darn piñata.
We let the youngest go first. A timid four-year-old approached the piñata and, after her first swing, her expression turned from fear to pure bloodlust. She wailed on that piñata. I had to intervene.
Eventually, one of the older girls managed to knock off the piñata’s head, but no candy fell out. So, I wrapped a rope around Cinderella’s torso and hung her up again. Now we had a headless princess dangling in my yard while the girls screamed and whacked it with sticks.
This was not exactly my finest hour as a father. At one point, my son, Jake, seized the severed head of the piñata and began banging it against the side of the house, laughing. I asked him why he was doing that.
“I thought there was candy inside!”
“No,” I replied. “The candy is in the…” I wanted to say headless princess but stopped myself and demanded he hand over the severed head. After a brief struggle, I managed to wrest it from his grasp.
Eventually, one girl broke open the piñata, and its torso tumbled to the ground, spilling candy everywhere. The children rushed in, kicking the headless body aside. The chocolate had melted, and their hands and faces were smeared with it. They resembled wild animals feasting on their prey.
It was both terrifying and hilarious.
What struck me most, however, was the time. The party was meant to wrap up at 4 PM, yet it was only 3:40. We had exhausted our activities 20 minutes ahead of time. If the parents were like me, they’d probably be late, and I loved my kids, but I also cherished those rare moments of quiet with Lisa. Being a few minutes late meant a few glorious moments of solitude. Most parents probably felt the same way. But showing up late usually meant leaving behind one or two extra kids—not nine sugar-fueled girls ready for chaos.
I shared a glance with Lisa. “What are we going to do?”
“Your guess is as good as mine,” she replied, fear in her eyes.
I considered letting them finish coloring the pictures they had started, but the crayons had melted. The girls wandered into the house, which I wanted to avoid, so we shooed them back outside, praying they wouldn’t demolish our garden.
Later, I discovered they had uprooted three tomato plants and placed a Barbie on a stick next to the birdbath, seemingly engaging in some bizarre display of power.
In hindsight, I should have initiated a game of red light/green light or tag, but I was exhausted and not thinking clearly.
Eventually, parents began to arrive, many of them running late, just as I suspected.
In my yard, I found a chaotic scene: candy wrappers, the severed head of a piñata, chewed gum, melted chocolate, frosting residue, the piñata torso, a tattered Disney Princess Band-Aid, a rock, a lone shoe, deflated balloons, melted candles, four tiaras, three princess goody bags, and two boogers next to the stripped cake.
Once I managed to clean up the aftermath, I collapsed on the couch. Zoey climbed into my lap with a new toy.
“That’s cute,” I said, “Did you have fun?”
With a radiant smile, she nodded. She didn’t utter a word, but I knew this was a memory she would cherish. Or at least I hoped so. Maybe that made it all worthwhile.
“Good,” I said. “I love you.”
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Summary:
Zoey’s birthday party was a chaotic whirlwind of little girls, melted chocolate, and messy piñata antics that felt reminiscent of a chaotic hell. Despite the overwhelming nature of the event, the joy on Zoey’s face made it all worthwhile, highlighting the bittersweet joys of parenthood.
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