It was just another afternoon in our bustling household. After a quick dash home from work, I opened the door with a flourish, tossed my backpack and purse onto the floor, and beamed at my 1-year-old son, whose pudgy legs swung from his high chair. “Mommy’s home!” I exclaimed, signing “Mommy” by tapping my thumb to my chin. His face lit up with a bright smile, and he clapped his hands as my partner joined in their little welcome-home celebration, culminating in a heartfelt group hug.
“I missed you so much,” I whispered, planting a kiss on his forehead before heading to the sink to start scrubbing my hands and arms with soap, followed by hand sanitizer and a spritz of Lysol for good measure. The 60 mL syringes filled with his next meal were warming in the sink, and my partner had already laid out the G-tube extension along with his 4:30 p.m. dose of medication. Since bringing our son home from the NICU after an extended eight-month stay that involved the diagnosis of chronic lung disease and the placement of both a tracheostomy and a gastronomy tube, our lives had transformed into a whirlwind of feeding, suctioning, venting, sterilizing, and disinfecting. Yet amidst this chaos, there were moments of snuggling, playful kisses, and unconditional love.
Suddenly, the doorbell rang, catching me off guard. I exchanged a quizzical glance with my partner; it was RSV season, and we were under strict germ lockdown. Unannounced visitors were not part of our routine.
“Oops, I forgot to mention,” he replied, heading toward the door, “I called the repair company to check our locks.” He unlocked the deadbolt and twisted the knob. “It will only take a minute,” he assured me.
As the door swung open, two repairmen peeked inside. With syringes and G-tube extension in hand, I offered a smile and a greeting. My son responded with enthusiastic clapping at the unexpected visitors.
I quickly attached the G-tube extension to his Mini button below his ribcage and began to gently push food through the syringe. While my partner spoke with the technicians in the foyer, I sensed one of the repairmen watching us. He was young and quiet, nodding along to the conversation but frequently glancing our way.
My protective instincts kicked in as I considered how our situation appeared to them—a baby connected to tubes on his neck and abdomen, oxygen tubing trailing down the hall like a strand of holiday lights, and an oxygen concentrator humming in the background. Saline bullets and sterile water containers cluttered our coffee table. To us, these special needs were routine, but as I sang “Itsy Bitsy Spider” to my son while pushing his meal through the feeding tube, it struck me how overwhelming it must seem to an outsider.
In my mind, I rehearsed my responses to the questions I anticipated. “Micropreemie.” “1 pound, 8 ounces.” “Severe preeclampsia.” “Chronic lung disease.” “231 days in the NICU.” “Time and growth.”
I continued listening as their conversation with my partner shifted from technical terms to lighthearted banter. My heart raced as the older repairman tore off a carbon copy of the invoice. Would we make it through this encounter without an awkward question about our medically fragile baby? My son turned to me and puffed air around his trach tube, producing a squeaky sound of approval while grinning.
“Thank you for coming by,” I heard my partner say as he began to close the door.
“Your son…” the younger repairman said suddenly.
Oh no, here it comes.
I tensed, bracing for the inevitable questions. What’s wrong with him? Why does he have that thing in his throat? Is it painful? Is he unwell? Will he be alright?
“Your son,” the young man continued, “is the most adorable baby I’ve ever seen.”
He paused, and my heart swelled as I inhaled deeply. “I just wanted to tell you that,” he added, glancing down shyly with a smile.
Looking at my joyful little boy—eyes sparkling, mouth wide with glee, hands clapping, legs kicking, and a squeaky voice—I exhaled the breath I had been holding since their arrival. Yes, I silently affirmed. Yes, he is indeed precious and remarkable. Stronger than anyone in this room.
My partner and I choose to overlook the tubes, wires, machines, and medical supplies that surrounded us, instead focusing on our beautiful son—a baby just like any other. And in that moment, someone else—a stranger with no obligation to do so—recognized that truth too.
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Summary
This article captures the emotional experience of a mother navigating life with a medically fragile child, highlighting the moments of joy and connection amidst the complexities of their situation. It emphasizes the importance of seeing beyond medical challenges to appreciate the beauty of a child’s spirit.
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