How do you explain to a child that her sister will never “wake up”? How do you convey that Mia lived only for hours, and her brother, Noah, for just two months? How do I tell her that we never had the chance to see Mia’s beautiful eyes, as they were still sealed shut at 22 weeks? In that moment, tears welled up in my eyes, and a lump formed in my throat. My sweet Ava, who had faced delays for so long, was beginning to grasp the concept of sibling loss. Recently, she has found her voice—a soft, lovely sound that continues to catch me off guard.
I never anticipated that two innocent words would evoke such a mix of sweetness and heartache. When Ava asked her sister to “wake up,” my heart swelled with pride. She remembers her siblings, sharing a unique bond that traces back to their time in the womb. It struck me then that we will eventually need to explain to Ava why her brother and sister are no longer with us. While I knew this conversation was inevitable, I never thought she might start asking questions so soon.
Mia and Noah will always hold a significant place in our family, and I will forever be their mother. As for what I’ll say when that moment arrives—I don’t have the answers. But I know we’ll be there to help Ava navigate her feelings and understand her sibling loss.
Regarding those two little words—“wake up”—it’s a moment I will treasure forever. In that instant, all my worries faded away as my maternal instincts kicked in. I smiled at Ava and said, “Mia is sleeping in heaven.” I wrapped my arms around my precious daughter, wishing to hold her forever. Tears streamed down my face, landing on her as she softly whispered back, “Heaven.”
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In summary, the experience of sibling loss is profoundly challenging yet utterly unique. As families navigate their grief, it becomes vital to find understanding and support in each other.
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