Hey there! I realize we’ve never really exchanged a full “hello” during drop-off like I do with the other parents. Honestly, it’s just not something I typically do with men I don’t know. I mean, just look at me—my hair is a tangled mess, I’ve got those telltale bags under my eyes, and I haven’t even brushed my teeth yet. I wouldn’t want to give off the wrong impression, right?
But rest assured, I notice you. I see you walking your daughter to school every morning, her bright pink backpack swinging on her back. I hear you remind her to tuck her cold hands into her jacket pockets, and it makes me smile, thinking of how I do the same with my son. I watch as you apply chapstick to her lips and ask for a goodbye kiss before she heads into the school. You tell her you’ll be there after class to pick her up, and you stand there watching her walk away, your heart following her until she disappears inside. Once she’s safely in, you turn to head back home.
I’m curious about what you do after drop-off. Do you run a successful business from home? Are you stuck in traffic on your way to an office? Maybe you’re searching online for fun after-school snack ideas, doing some grocery shopping, making her bed, washing the breakfast dishes, or starting a load of laundry? Or perhaps you take the time to relax with a nap, scrolling through Facebook while sipping your coffee?
I can’t say for sure, but I wonder if you find it challenging to navigate this “woman’s world.” Are there dad meet-up groups at the park? Do the moms include you in their conversations? Do churches host “Daddy’s Day Out” events? Have you ever been invited to a DOPs (Dads of Preschoolers) gathering? When you’re in a store, do you ever change your baby’s diaper on a public restroom floor if there’s no changing table available? Do you grapple with concerns about your career and financial future as a stay-at-home dad?
I wouldn’t know the answers to these questions because, honestly, it’s not my place to pry—and let’s be real, I wouldn’t want to scare you off with my morning breath.
What I do know is that society often tries to convince us that we’re fundamentally different. As a woman, I’m expected to be the more nurturing caregiver, yet I see the love shining in your daughter’s eyes when she looks at you. You are just as capable as any woman of making her feel cherished and secure. When I see your wedding band, I can’t help but wonder if your wife is the primary breadwinner. She’s just as capable and ambitious in her career, after all.
You may be bigger and stronger, but I know you’re also the gentle storyteller at bedtime. I might be softer and leaner, but trust me, those kids know they better get upstairs by the time I count to 15 or face the consequences.
Like you, I don’t always feel like the ideal parent I thought I would be. Do you ever question whether you’re fulfilling your “role” as a dad by taking on the primary caretaker responsibilities? Is this parenting journey what you envisioned it would be?
We may never have that heartfelt chat before the school bell rings, but please know this: I see you, I appreciate you, and I recognize the love your little girl has for her dad.
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Summary
This letter acknowledges the often-overlooked presence of fathers during school drop-offs, recognizing their love and dedication. It explores the societal expectations placed on dads and encourages appreciation for their role in nurturing their children while fostering a sense of connection among parents.
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