It’s a common misconception that I have everything under control—people often see me as a put-together mom who juggles three kids, a tidy home, and a writing career without breaking a sweat. But the reality? It often feels like attempting to navigate a yacht without ever having set sail before. While my successful writing pieces may be what others notice, the struggles and failures remain my own private battles.
Sure, I do manage to carve out time for writing, indulging in a good book, and even enjoying moments of blissful idleness. Perhaps this is what leads others to believe I possess some sort of superhuman abilities. But the truth is, I’m just a mom.
Being “just a mom” doesn’t equate to losing my identity in the chaos of parenting. Quite the contrary, it’s about establishing clear priorities and boundaries. Here’s what being just a mom means to me:
- Ensuring my kids’ safety and well-being.
- Dressing them appropriately for the weather (though matching outfits are optional).
- Feeding them and ensuring they get enough rest.
- Fostering their growth into responsible, well-adjusted individuals.
That’s the gist of it. For some, motherhood may come with an extensive list of additional roles, but not for me.
- I’m not a chauffeur. I don’t drive, and honestly, I lack the motivation to shuffle my kids from one after-school activity to another.
- I’m not their teacher. While I value education and played a role in teaching them to read, I trust their school to handle the rest. I do check their homework, but they are responsible for completing it.
- I’m not a professional chef. I enjoy cooking but primarily for myself. I’m just as happy serving them hot dogs or pre-packaged meals. Sometimes they choose, sometimes I do; it all depends on my mood.
- I’m not a maid. I clean and do laundry, but having a pristine house isn’t my top priority. I teach my kids to tidy up after themselves and do their chores. We also have a cleaner who comes weekly.
- I’m not a mind reader. It’s unrealistic to always know what my kids want or need. I refuse to stress over their behavior or worry that I’m going to scar them for life—there are far more pressing matters.
- I’m not a detective. If they misplace something, it’s gone. They need to learn how to resolve their own conflicts.
- I’m not an entertainer. My children have toys and friends to keep them occupied. They can watch YouTube or play on the iPad without my involvement.
Being just a mom allows me the freedom to pursue my passions beyond motherhood, such as writing, reading, and socializing with friends.
I recognize that some women thrive in a more immersive motherhood experience—crafting art projects, driving kids to various activities, and orchestrating Pinterest-worthy birthday parties. For them, staying home and caring for young ones is a fulfilling choice. For others, it may feel like a sacrifice.
As for me, I’ve come to terms with the fact that my motherhood experience doesn’t fit that mold, and I’ve stopped feeling guilty about it. I’m just a mom, and honestly, that’s more than sufficient.
If you’re interested in exploring more about the journey of parenthood and family, check out this insightful post on Cervical Insemination. And if you’re on a journey of your own, consider checking out Make A Mom, where you can find reputable at-home insemination kits. For further guidance on fertility insurance, UCSF offers an excellent resource.
In summary, being “just a mom” doesn’t mean I’m less involved or committed; it simply acknowledges that I have my own identity and interests outside of motherhood.
Leave a Reply