Dear Emma,
I can still picture you in your starry black-and-white pants, wearing a purple dress, a red one, and a striped one all at once—confidently declaring how amazing you look. When I asked you, “If you were a dinosaur, what would you be?” you gleefully replied, “A sparkly pink Pteranodon who loves to create art and cook with mommy and adores her baby sister.” Your self-love and carefree spirit are such treasures, and as your mom, I wish for you to carry that joy into adulthood.
While growing up, it’s easy to lose some of that unabashed confidence and zest for life, whether it’s from experiences in middle school, a tough job review, or a college heartbreak. So here’s a letter of advice from me—your proud mom—and the spirited 3-year-old you, who naturally embraced so many wonderful lessons.
1. Claim Your Space
Just like you used to grab the coolest toy in the room, don’t shy away from taking what’s yours. Women often feel like they should hold back, but it’s time to unfold. Take that armrest during your next flight; you deserve it just as much as anyone else. And remember to explore the world! Learn a new language through a fun travel adventure.
2. Celebrate Yourself
Recently, you made a Thanksgiving tree and proudly included “myself” on it. Yes, embrace that spirit! You are fantastic!
3. Prioritize Comfort
This doesn’t mean avoiding hard work; instead, it’s about treating yourself well. Enjoy that king-sized bed, wear comfy socks, and if you don’t like certain clothes, don’t wear them. Just be as at ease with yourself as you are now when you joyfully skip down the hall.
4. Savor Your Food
Only indulge in things that nurture your body or your soul (or both). If you don’t enjoy it, don’t eat it. Relish your pizza and then enjoy a salad just as much. Forget about guilty pleasures—just have plenty of healthy delights.
5. Practice Kindness
While life can seem unfair—where sometimes it feels like mean people succeed—don’t let that deter you. Be genuinely kind, and if you’re too busy to do so, reassess your priorities.
6. Value Your Body
Appreciate your body as you would a beautiful tree. Focus on your strengths and the incredible things your body does, rather than fixating on imperfections.
7. Cherish True Friendships
Sometimes friendships may not come as easily as you hope, but value those who genuinely want to be around you. In 20 years, those friendships will be your support system.
8. Embrace Confidence
Whether you’re belting out silly songs or creating art, maintain that self-assuredness. Don’t allow anyone to shake your belief in yourself.
9. Get Creative and Messy
Dive into your art projects with abandon—don’t shy away from a little mess!
10. Focus on Positivity
While constructive criticism is important, don’t dwell solely on negativity. Remember the compliments and moments of joy.
11. Nurture Your Sisterly Bond
Your sister looks up to you with adoration. Always be there for each other.
12. Stay Playful
Keep that imaginative spirit alive. Just like when you asked for a story and could only think of vegetables, let your creativity flow.
13. Avoid Stress Competitions
Life isn’t a race to see who is the most stressed. Choose happiness whenever you can, and don’t let anyone dim your light.
14. Foster Empathy
I remember watching you and your friends try to figure out why a boy was upset. Keep that desire to understand others as you grow—empathy is invaluable.
15. Forgive Quickly
Life’s too short to dwell on mistakes. Learn from them and move on, just like your catchy song says!
16. Self-Advocate
Don’t feel guilty for putting yourself first. You deserve to chase your dreams and desires.
17. Deserve Love
Know that you are worthy of love, just as I love you now—completely and unconditionally.
18. Choose Partners Wisely
Look for someone who lifts you up, not just someone who seems interesting. A partner who brings joy into your life is what you should seek.
19. Be the Protagonist
Cast yourself as the hero of your story. Don’t let others define your narrative; instead, focus on overcoming shared challenges.
20. Champion Female Representation
You’ve always insisted on strong female characters, and that should carry on into your adult life. You are as capable and valuable as anyone.
21. Be Kind to Yourself
Treat yourself how you would treat a young child. When you doubt your abilities, remind yourself that it’s okay to seek help.
22. Enjoy Life’s Moments
Even the mundane can be magical. Like the time you joyfully declared it was the best day of your life while scootering down the street—embrace those moments.
23. Advocate for Yourself
Never hesitate to put your needs first. Chase that rainbow unicorn and let me follow along!
Remember, Emma, you have a beautiful life ahead of you filled with possibilities. For more insights on family planning and pregnancy, check out this excellent resource about family building options. And if you ever need quality products for home insemination, visit this trusted retailer.
With all my love,
Mom
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