As my partner and I approach our 11th wedding anniversary, the term “celebrate” feels a bit humorous. We’re both secretly hoping we’ll remember the date and navigate it without any unexpected chaos that might disrupt our annual high-five and heartfelt embrace, where we joyfully declare, “We did it again! We’re amazing!” It usually culminates in a loving kiss; after all, we genuinely care for each other. Our story is a quintessential love tale.
We truly have little to complain about. We are blessed with three wonderfully healthy children, a warm home, a steady income that supports our comfortably busy lifestyle, and a minivan that’s become a symbol of our family journey. We share reciprocal love and a mutual respect for each other’s quirks. Our ability to tolerate one another has flourished, surpassing even our most optimistic expectations before marriage. We owe much of this growth to our children, who effortlessly redirect our focus from our own desires to their needs. The days of petty arguments and competitive banter are long gone. Now, we strive to set a positive example.
When reflecting on the evolution of our marriage, the dish that comes to mind is the classic tater tot hotdish. I’m no relationship guru, but the lessons learned from this beloved casserole can resonate with any couple seeking wisdom from someone who’s been through the ups and downs of marriage. Here’s how the journey of marriage parallels the process of making tater tot hotdish:
1. Grow Up.
There was a time when the precise method of making this creamy casserole tested our love. My way was the only right way; my partner didn’t agree, and let’s just say a wooden spoon may have been launched in a moment of frustration. We went days without speaking—a relatable scenario for many. But let’s face it, violence is never the solution, especially when kids are watching.
2. Mix It Up.
Marriage thrives when both partners strive to create a cohesive unit. Trying to layer things carefully without blending is not only a waste of effort but also a bit tasteless. It’s essential to embrace the messy mixing that marriage entails.
3. Agree to Disagree.
Simply put, don’t let disagreements ruin the joy of sharing a meal together. If you can’t come to a consensus, you may find yourselves enjoying your culinary creations in silence, which isn’t ideal.
4. Life’s a Game—Enjoy It.
Why not prepare separate pans of tater tot hotdish together? Put on some music, pour a glass of wine, and enjoy the process. You’ll not only share the kitchen space but also create opportunities for connection that can carry over into other areas of your relationship.
5. Extend an Olive Branch.
Be open to your partner’s preferences. After all, you fell in love with them for a reason. But feel free to add a surprise ingredient—like big chunks of celery—just to keep things interesting.
6. In a Pinch, Cry.
Sometimes, you just need to let it out. However, keep those tears hidden from the kids; you don’t want to set a poor example for how to express emotions.
7. Plan a Family Meal.
Gather everyone around the table. You might forget what you were arguing about and, in no time, form a united front. Sure, the kids may not be thrilled with tater tot hotdish, but that’s part of the fun. There will always be complaints about the food, but you can smile at each other across the table, share a knowing glance, and toast to the chaos of family life.
This is what married life with kids looks like—a blend of love, patience, and the occasional culinary mishap.
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In summary, marriage is an ongoing journey that requires growth, understanding, and a good sense of humor. Just like tater tot hotdish, it may look messy at times, but it’s the love and effort that make it satisfying.
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