Can Moms Really Show Their Anger and Be Taken Seriously?

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I often find myself grappling with anger. It can start as a mild annoyance—like when someone puts an empty egg carton back in the fridge after using the last egg—grow into frustration, such as when I realize childcare costs more than my rent, and sometimes explode into full-blown rage at the ridiculous notion that “more guns in schools” is a solution to gun violence. Despite these feelings, I usually suppress my anger. I’ll shake my head about the eggs, shrug at our inadequate family-support policies, and tell myself, “What can I do?” When it comes to serious issues like gun violence, I search for “constructive” outlets for my frustration. There’s a nagging fear that if I truly expressed my anger, others would label me as irrational.

Why Society Struggles to Accept Angry Women

Why is it that society struggles to accept angry women? When men express their anger, they’re often seen as assertive and passionate. On the other hand, when women do, they risk being viewed as unstable. This isn’t mere speculation; research backs it up. An article by Alex Foster in Pacific Standard outlines a study that examines how men and women are perceived when they express anger. The findings reveal a stark difference in how their emotions are received.

In the study, 210 college students acted as jurors in a mock trial, where they watched a video of a man accused of murdering his wife. They cast initial votes of guilty or not guilty after reviewing various evidence. During the deliberation process, one juror, either male or female, sent increasingly angry or fearful messages regarding the trial’s outcome while the rest of the jurors had gender-neutral names. Interestingly, when the male juror expressed anger, the other participants began to doubt their own opinions significantly. However, when the female juror displayed anger, it only served to strengthen the confidence of the other jurors in their original decisions.

Foster highlights this disparity: “This dynamic held true for both male and female participants, meaning men could exert social pressure through anger, while women’s anger diminished their influence.” This aligns with my instinct to keep my anger in check; research indicates that expressing anger as a woman can lead others to dismiss your views, while men are often seen as justified in their frustration.

The Interpretation of Women’s Anger

This phenomenon suggests that a woman’s anger is often interpreted as a sign of personal flaws rather than a legitimate response to external circumstances—like an unbalanced division of household responsibilities or the distressing rise in gun-related deaths. We’re conditioned to believe that if we’re angry, it’s because there’s something wrong with us, not because our concerns are valid.

As a mother, I often find myself wrestling with these emotions. Whether it’s the frustration of managing two small children while juggling groceries, or the reality of paying a babysitter with a paycheck that barely covers it, there’s a lot to be angry about. I also feel this anger when I read about school shootings. It’s a battle to maintain my composure over both trivial and significant matters. But perhaps it’s time to embrace that anger rather than suppress it. After all, moms have every right to be furious.

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Conclusion

In summary, it’s crucial for mothers to recognize their anger as a valid response to their experiences. Instead of hiding it, let’s acknowledge and express it. We have every right to feel our emotions deeply and to demand respect for those feelings.

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