Parenting
Updated: July 8, 2021
Originally Published: Oct. 25, 2015
When I first stepped into motherhood, I found myself grappling with my identity as a mom. Everywhere I looked, there were incredible mothers showcasing their unique talents and skills. I wanted to emulate them all, but eventually, I realized that I couldn’t do everything. I needed to discover who I was as a mom and embrace that reality. Here’s a glimpse into the types of moms I’m not:
The Mom Who Hosts Spectacular Playdates
You know the one—her playdates are epic, complete with Play-Doh, paint, and exciting science experiments. Everything is themed, and her home feels like a carnival to the kids. I’m not that mom. My playdates are much more low-key. Honestly, the thought of managing a group paint session in my home sends my anxiety levels soaring.
The Mom Who Seems to Have It All Figured Out
She’s got twins, a toddler, and even a dog in tow, all while being pregnant. Her kids are always polite and well-mannered. I’m not that mom. Right now, my kids are bickering over a single sand shovel.
The Mom Who Should Be on a Cooking Show
Her meals look like they belong in a gourmet magazine; they are mouth-watering! My kids may eat her dishes, but they wouldn’t touch the same at home. My husband often hints he wishes I could cook like that, but I’m not that mom. My cooking is straightforward, and we tend to have a few favorite meals on repeat.
The Mom Who Organizes Everything
She’s deeply involved in the PTA, leads a book club, and coordinates neighborhood gatherings. I’m not that mom. I simply don’t have the social energy or the time to manage that many activities.
The Mom Who’s Crafty Beyond Belief
She knits, sews, and even dresses her kids in matching outfits she created herself. She runs a successful Etsy shop on the side. I’m not that mom. I can barely sew a button and find repetitive crafting projects tedious. I prefer to shop from her Etsy store instead.
The Mom with a Spotless Home
Her house looks like it belongs in a home decor magazine. Even her playroom is pristine and organized. She’ll apologize for the “mess,” but there’s hardly a speck of dust in sight. I, on the other hand, am definitely not that mom. If you swing by my house, you’ll find toys scattered everywhere and unmade beds.
The Mom Who Relies on Coffee
Many of my friends are coffee aficionados, but I’m not that mom. I’ve tried, but coffee just isn’t for me. If I’m at a coffee shop, you’ll see me sipping tea instead—and I’m perfectly content with that.
I’ve discovered that true happiness comes from not trying to be the “perfect” mom. I am this mom—a mom with a slightly messy home, whose kids may not always behave perfectly, and who doesn’t feel the need to organize every event. I strive to make nutritious meals yet allow for the occasional junk food treat.
Ultimately, I’m the mom who prioritizes happiness for both myself and my children while cherishing the memories we create together. That’s what matters most to me and my family. If you’re interested in learning more about different parenting styles, check out this insightful post on Cervical Insemination. And if you’re considering at-home insemination options, Make A Mom offers a great selection of reliable kits. For comprehensive resources on pregnancy and home insemination, visit Rmany’s blog.
In summary, embracing who I am as a mom has brought me peace. I may not fit into the mold of the “perfect” mom, but I’m content with my approach to motherhood, and that is enough.
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