When you embark on the journey of motherhood, it can often feel like your very essence is under siege. Suddenly, your time and even your body are dictated by the demands of tiny humans whose needs seem to eclipse your own. While many of us embrace this new reality with grace, there are moments when we reach our breaking point. Thus, I propose a Mothers’ Bill of Rights—16 fundamental entitlements that every mother should claim. Here are the 16 “birthrights” that should be bestowed upon every new mom.
- The right to enjoy a moment of solitude in the bathroom, where we can actually wash our hands and exit without a child wailing or banging on the door.
- The right to savor a meal from a plate that hasn’t been previously invaded by little hands. And yes, it should be at the right temperature!
- The right to remain seated during dinner without multiple interruptions for milk, ketchup, or to rescue a tantruming toddler.
- The right to transition back to work after maternity leave without facing significant setbacks in our careers.
- For six weeks post-delivery, the right to have a designated helper deliver our meals, ensuring we have nourishment with minimal effort.
- A reasonable time allowance each morning for hair and makeup—ideally 15 minutes—without the chaos of a child trying to commandeer the sink or bathtub.
- The right to go out in public without unsolicited advice from strangers. Yes, we know it’s chilly, and no, our toddler isn’t harming himself by sucking his thumb.
- The right to embrace our preferences—whether that means not enjoying cooking or disliking cleaning—without societal judgment.
- A partner who intuitively understands household needs, eliminating the need for us to remind them of chores like packing lunches or washing soccer uniforms.
- A guaranteed amount of alone time each week for personal pursuits—ideally four hours, but we’ll settle for two if need be.
- A designated number of vacation days that can be enjoyed either with or without the kids.
- Regular date nights—ideally once a week or at least twice a month—to reconnect with our partners.
- The right to attend medical appointments solo, without postponing due to the chaotic nature of daily life.
- The right to occasionally opt for paper plates to ease the burden of dishwashing.
- The right to be nurtured when ill, without having to coordinate medication schedules around drop-offs and pick-ups.
- Lastly, the right to receive sufficient time and assistance—whether from partners, family, or professional help—so we can relish our roles as mothers without feeling overwhelmed by the relentless pace of life.
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In short, every mother deserves these rights to ensure that the experience of motherhood is not just a sprint from one obligation to another, but a fulfilling and enjoyable journey.
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