Recently, I stumbled across a quote on social media attributed to a well-known author, which read, “Embrace the glorious mess that you are.” Trust me, I wholeheartedly agree with that sentiment! Anyone who knows me can vouch for my appreciation of life’s chaotic twists and turns.
Often, the chaos originates from our children, but sometimes it’s self-inflicted or simply an unexpected curveball that hits us out of nowhere. While I accept that mess is a part of life, I take issue with the lengthy commentary that accompanied the quote, where she proclaimed her stance “Against BALANCE…” (that’s how her post kicked off). She expressed the belief that balance has come to be synonymous with perfection for many women. I understand her point, but I firmly believe balance is essential.
Balance is defined as “an even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady.” As parents, we need to stay upright and reasonably steady in our daily lives. Even those without children strive for a sense of stability. Sure, there are moments when we lose that equilibrium—when we fall off the beam, or life throws us a curveball. Yet, we all want to regain our footing.
The core issue for many women is the misconception that balance equates to doing it all. This is simply unattainable. The author discussed her journey towards balance, highlighting essential elements like nourishment, spirituality, and love. However, it wasn’t a perfect balance; it involved significant doses of each. But ultimately, it led her to a place where she could harmonize these aspects and find fulfillment.
To achieve a balanced life, we need to include exercise, work, family time, relationships, and personal enjoyment on our to-do lists. Realistically, it’s rare to fit everything we desire into our busy schedules. Even if we try to balance our responsibilities, there’s only so much our mental seesaw can handle before it tips.
Creating balance means making choices. Your exercise routine might clash with your work commitments, or family time might need to be weighed against personal time. The seesaw can become crowded, but prioritizing the big-ticket items is crucial. When these essentials are sidelined, maintaining balance becomes nearly impossible.
Then there are friends, household chores, and projects we aspire to tackle. Renovations, Pinterest crafts, vacations, and volunteering can quickly pile up. Suddenly, you’re left wondering how to fit it all in, including helping out a friend or finding time for that new club you joined.
The key is recognizing and accepting your limitations. Those unexpected challenges are what tip the scale. When life throws something heavy on one side, it’s vital to remove something from the other to regain your balance. Maybe that from-scratch birthday cake will have to be store-bought this year. Or perhaps that bathroom renovation will need to wait.
Sure, we all want to do it all, but the truth is, it’s not feasible if you want to stay sane and upright. There will be fleeting moments when everything aligns perfectly, but then, bam—something disrupts the balance. It could be a family emergency, a job loss, or even a minor mishap like spilling milk.
When life adds an unexpected burden, don’t just throw more on the other side of the scale. Instead, look for something to remove from that overloaded side. And remember, it’s okay to ask for help. Yes, help!
Have you ever watched a gymnast on the balance beam? These professionals have spotters for a reason, especially when attempting difficult moves. The myth that we must do it all ourselves is a significant barrier in achieving balance. Sometimes, you need a helping hand to get back on track.
Your spotter could be a friend, a therapist, or even a coworker—perhaps all three. When you reach the point where you can determine daily priorities and feel comfortable asking for assistance, that is true balance.
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Summary:
Achieving balance in parenting is a challenging yet essential endeavor. It requires acknowledging limitations, making choices, and sometimes asking for help. Understanding that balance does not mean doing it all can lead to a more fulfilling and steady life.
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