Like many women from previous generations, my grandmothers were avid bridge enthusiasts, and their bridge luncheons with friends were sacred. As a child, I struggled to grasp the appeal of this card game. However, I’ve come to realize that those gatherings were less about the game itself and more about the vital need for these women to step away from family responsibilities and enjoy laughter, conversation, and connection with one another. They understood something I’m only beginning to appreciate: mothers absolutely need their own playdates. Here are a few reasons why:
1. Declining Opportunities for Mom Time
As children grow older, chances for mom-to-mom interactions diminish. I spent countless hours with fellow moms during ballet classes, soccer matches, and school events, not realizing how much I cherished that time together until it began to fade. Nowadays, as kids gain independence—biking or driving to their own activities—mom gatherings have significantly decreased. Recently, at a graduation party, I found myself reminiscing with the moms of my child’s former Brownie Troop. It was a stark reminder of how long it had been since we all gathered and how much I missed their humor and camaraderie. Time for a Brownie Reunion, just for us moms!
2. Building Lasting Friendships
Maintaining a peer group during the busy parenting years is crucial. Juggling kids, schedules, and responsibilities often feels relentless. However, nurturing friendships is just as important as maintaining a relationship with your partner. Eventually, when you’re no longer picking up toys or managing carpools, there will be a lot of free time to fill.
3. Support Through Life’s Ups and Downs
Life can throw unexpected challenges our way, and it’s essential to have friends who truly understand you. My grandmother’s bridge club has weathered the storms of life together for over 50 years, sharing experiences of marriage, divorce, financial struggles, and personal triumphs. As I enter my 40s, I find that many of these experiences resonate deeply. Having friends to celebrate the highs and help through the lows is not merely a luxury; it’s a necessity.
4. Just Plain Fun
Let’s be honest; social gatherings don’t need to resemble wild nights out. The joy of being in a room full of friends, sharing delicious food, sipping wine, and laughing over shared experiences is irreplaceable. It’s about reconnecting over life’s absurdities and celebrating everything that makes this journey worth it.
So, if you’ll excuse me, I’m off to plan my next playdate. Who’s up for some bridge?
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In summary, carving out time for moms to connect is essential for maintaining friendships, finding support, and simply enjoying life. It’s time for moms to prioritize their playdates!
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