5 Ways Moms Can Maintain Their Friendship with Childfree Pals

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Hey there, mamas! It’s time to elevate our friendship game. Our little ones shouldn’t be an excuse to drift away from our besties. Sure, they can be a challenge, but we can do better than that! Last week, I shared tips for childfree friends to keep their bond alive with moms. This week, let’s focus on how we can reconnect with our childfree pals.

We all know parenting is exhausting—like juggling flaming torches while riding a unicycle, right? But just because our time is limited doesn’t mean we can’t nurture our friendships. Remember, we were once childfree too! Those carefree days, when life revolved around our own whims, weren’t just a distant memory. We should cherish that time and honor it by investing in our friendships.

Here are five practical ways moms can strengthen their connection with their childfree besties:

1. Be Selective with Kid Photos: Let’s be real—your friend doesn’t need a million updates about your adorable baby. Sure, she loves that you’re a proud mom, but save the play-by-play for social media. Limit your updates to the major milestones—like walking or talking—and please, for the love of all that’s holy, don’t send potty pictures. Instead, ask for updates about her pets or interests. Show genuine curiosity about her life.
2. Say “Yes” to Outings: When your friend invites you out, be ready to say “yes” whenever possible. I know, it can feel like a Herculean task to arrange childcare and get yourself ready. But a night out at that trendy restaurant could be just what you need. So, grab a coffee (or perhaps something stronger) and get into the mood to enjoy some quality time with your bestie. You deserve a break!
3. Don’t Let Every Kid Crisis Derail Plans: Life happens, and kids can be unpredictable, but try not to cancel plans at the drop of a hat. If your child is sick or having a meltdown, it’s totally valid to reschedule. Just be honest about it and communicate with your friend promptly. Remember, the goal is to avoid being that flaky friend.
4. Make Time for Phone Chats: If meeting in person isn’t feasible, try to carve out some time for a phone call. Texting is great, but nothing beats a good old-fashioned chat. Find a quiet moment—maybe after the kids are asleep—and dedicate 30 minutes to catching up without interruptions.
5. Practice Empathy: We all remember a time when life revolved around just ourselves. It’s easy to forget that our childfree friends still have their own lives and challenges. Make a conscious effort to understand their perspective and the time constraints you both face. Consider setting a regular date for a meal or phone call to keep the connection alive. It’s all about quality over quantity.

Moms, just because we have kids doesn’t mean we should abandon our friendships or social niceties. Sure, you may not have a moment to yourself, but your bestie should still feel valued. After all, she’s the one who can help you make sense of the chaos when things go awry.

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In summary, keeping friendships strong as a mom takes effort, but it’s worth it. By being thoughtful and prioritizing your friendships, you can maintain those important connections that enrich your life.