I apologize for the delay in responding to your messages; I wasn’t quite sure how to fit into the conversation. While I recognize that we share more similarities than differences, and we all want what’s best for our families and ourselves, the internet often fosters an “us vs. them” mentality that doesn’t leave much space for a mom like me who juggles both work and parenting from home.
In the spirit of fostering understanding and support among us on this chaotic journey of motherhood, I’d like to share five insights about myself as a hybrid mom who works from home.
1. The Pressure to Do It All
Despite having a wonderfully supportive partner, I often feel the weight of expectation to excel in both work and home responsibilities. Since my office is set up in the dining room, I can’t shake the feeling that I’m slacking if I don’t manage to complete a full workday while also cleaning up or doing laundry. The first time I met a deadline after my son was born, I found myself in tears, worried that I was somehow failing him by focusing on my job. Even when I finish my tasks, I’m left wondering if I’ve done enough given my new responsibilities as a mom. It’s a constant reminder that I’m human, yet the pressure of “shoulds” from both roles can feel suffocating.
2. Scheduling Chaos
I’ve learned to be increasingly efficient during nap times (thank goodness for baby carriers!), but I still feel guilty when I have to pass the baby to my husband to finish a project after he returns home from work. There’s always that nagging voice in my head questioning whether I’ve accomplished enough work for the day. It’s no longer about achieving work-life balance; it’s an exhausting juggling act, and as a type-A personality, I’m always on high alert to keep everything afloat. Just when I think I’ve nailed the new routine, the baby changes things up again, and my workweeks are never predictable. Still, I yearn for an orderly schedule!
3. Finding My Tribe is Tough
My friends who work outside the home seem to have a solid network of working moms to connect with, while my stay-at-home mom friends enjoy their own communities, whether online or in person. As a work-from-home mom, I often struggle to find others who share my experience, which can lead to feelings of isolation.
4. Admiration for Both Sides
I miss the structure of working outside the home with set hours, and I often wonder what it would be like to focus solely on my child—and the house—without a running list of tasks in my mind. Yet, I recognize that I couldn’t manage what either of you does, no matter how much I might wish otherwise. Working from home while parenting is a tough balancing act, but for now, it suits me best. I genuinely respect the efforts both of you put into your roles.
5. The Value of Our Conversations
It’s remarkable that we even have the opportunity to share our experiences. Can you imagine our mothers having such discussions? It’s empowering to see various paths to motherhood, and I believe our diverse choices will inspire our children to reach even greater heights. We’re creating a world filled with incredible role models for our daughters and sons, giving them a broader range of options when it comes to their family decisions.
Ultimately, I feel fortunate to create a working life that includes my child, but that doesn’t mean it’s an easy path. I cherish the fact that we live in a time where we have options like these. Even if being a stay-at-home mom or a working mom aren’t the roles I’ve chosen, I want you both to know that I value your contributions, in whatever form they take! There’s no single right way to be a modern mom, but we’re all doing an incredible job. After all, the kids are fed and we’re still mostly sane by the end of the day—that’s definitely worth celebrating!
With love and respect,
A Work-from-Home Mom
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Summary:
Being a work-from-home mom comes with its own unique challenges, blending the responsibilities of parenting with professional commitments. Despite feeling the pressure to excel in both areas, I appreciate the opportunity to create a life that accommodates my child. While finding community as a hybrid mom can be tough, I admire the dedication of both stay-at-home and working mothers. Ultimately, we all strive for the best for our families, and it’s essential to celebrate our diverse roles in the journey of motherhood.
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