How many women genuinely feel cherished or desired on Valentine’s Day? If you surveyed moms, I’d wager the answer would be disappointing. What we truly crave? It’s not roses, I assure you. It’s peace and quiet—someone else taking care of dinner, bedtime, and a break from the endless “Mommy, can you…” requests that bombard us daily.
That’s why this holiday often falls flat and fails to meet our hopes. Sure, in our younger years, we may have enjoyed the fancy dinners, flowers, and chocolates. (Okay, we still appreciate the wine and sweets, but now we’d rather enjoy them in our sweats while curling up with a good book or catching up on reality TV.)
After a long year of pandemic stress that has drained mothers everywhere, don’t expect romance, gifts, or even energy from us. The ideal Valentine’s Day plan? “I love you, I’ll handle the kids tonight. Take some time for yourself.” Voilà! You’ve just won Valentine’s Day!
Imagine the perfect evening: My partner brings home takeout, and while he’s occupied in another room, I’m indulging in Ryan Reynolds movies.
Confessions from the trenches:
- “Everyone in the house is grumpy today. Guess I’ll hide in my room with a good book. Happy Valentine’s Day to me!”
- “I have breakouts from stress, a cold sore, and my finances are a mess. Happy Valentine’s Day, H!”
- “I never thought I’d say, ‘Sorry, honey, my hemorrhoids hurt’ on Valentine’s Day.”
- “This year, I’ll make sure to treat myself to discounted chocolates the day after Valentine’s Day. A stash just for me!”
For many, Valentine’s Day can be a stark reminder of relationship struggles. With all the ads and social media showcasing couples in love, it’s hard not to feel isolated, especially if home life is challenging.
If this holiday brings you down, it’s okay to redefine it. Spend the day binge-watching your favorite series, ordering takeout, or treating yourself to flowers and chocolates. Perhaps get your kids involved—encouraging them to show appreciation to others through small acts of kindness.
Valentine’s Day is what you make of it. As for me, I plan to enjoy takeout, wear my coziest sweats, and dive into “Schitt’s Creek.” Sounds perfect, right?
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Summary:
Valentine’s Day often fails to meet the expectations of many women, particularly mothers, who crave peace and self-care rather than traditional romantic gestures. Instead of focusing on societal pressures, women can redefine the holiday to suit their needs, whether it’s enjoying a cozy night in or treating themselves to something special.