As the ongoing coronavirus pandemic reshapes our lives, many cherished events have been canceled or transformed, including weddings, reunions, and vacations. One of the most significant losses for many is the high school and college graduation ceremonies that the class of 2020 had eagerly anticipated.
Seniors this year have had to come to terms with the harsh reality that their final months in education and the graduation ceremonies they’ve dreamed of have been drastically altered or entirely eliminated. Yet, some adults seem to think that these young people should simply accept this change without a second thought, dismissing their feelings of heartbreak and disappointment.
A recent article from ABC News highlighted how many students feel “devastated” about missing out on their graduation celebrations. Schools are attempting to adapt with options like virtual ceremonies or small gatherings with social distancing measures in place. But let’s be real—this is not the graduation they envisioned after years of hard work. It’s completely understandable that these teens and young adults are feeling down about it. I find myself emotional just recalling my own graduation experience, even though I don’t have a senior this year.
Unfortunately, some individuals online are unsympathetic. Comments like “Get used to life’s disappointments” and “At least no one died!” reflect a lack of understanding about the depth of disappointment these students are experiencing. Just because there are greater tragedies doesn’t mean that this loss isn’t significant. The graduating class of 2020 isn’t equating their disappointment with the loss of life from the pandemic; they are grieving a pivotal moment in their lives.
I know some seniors personally, and while they are understandably upset, they are also exhibiting a resilience that I didn’t have back in 2000. Instead of crumbling under the weight of disappointment, they’re taking adorable photos in their caps and gowns, even if they’re standing alone in their backyards. They’re donning humorous “Quarantine Class 2020” shirts and trying to make the best of a tough situation. They deserve to express their sadness over this lost milestone.
So, if you find yourself dismissing a parent’s post about their upset senior, remember to resist the urge to tell them it “could be worse.” Instead, offer your support or simply stay quiet. It’s important to acknowledge that these young people have every right to mourn this significant loss. For more on how to navigate these emotions, check out this insightful piece on dealing with disappointments in life, found here.
In conclusion, while the world faces unprecedented challenges, we must recognize and validate the feelings of the graduating class of 2020. Their experience is uniquely challenging, and they deserve our empathy and understanding.