Recently, I shared a snapshot on my blog’s Facebook page of me engaging in a Humpty Dumpty game with my five-year-old daughter, Lily, while managing my schedule between Zoom meetings. My partner, Sarah, was busy in the other room supporting our ten-year-old son, Max, who had just experienced a meltdown over his math homework. Amidst the chaos, Lily kept pleading with Sarah for some playtime, so I stepped in to lend a hand. Earlier that day, I had been ensuring that our thirteen-year-old son, Ethan, was keeping up with his assignments while juggling my own work responsibilities.
The purpose of my post was to highlight our new family dynamic, but the comments revealed that my situation was not universal. I was taken aback by how many mothers expressed frustration about their partners working from home but not participating in homeschooling at all. One woman shared that her husband would retreat to the bedroom and lock the door, leaving her to manage homeschooling for their five kids while also juggling her full-time job. Let me be clear: that’s just not right.
I understand that these times are challenging. I work at a university that has faced significant financial losses due to COVID-19 shutdowns. Discussions of layoffs and budget cuts loom large, and I share the anxiety of potentially losing my job. In response, I’ve been taking on additional responsibilities and accepting every task that comes my way, hoping to secure my position.
However, none of these pressures justify neglecting your role in homeschooling.
If both you and your partner are working from home, remember that your spouse is dealing with the same stresses. Guys, you have the capability to help out. This might involve adjusting your hours to work in the evenings or rising early to get a head start before the kids need assistance. You could also set up your workspace in the kitchen to tackle emails while supporting your child with their homework. Collaborate with your partner to outline your schedules and identify when you are available to contribute and when you require uninterrupted time for work.
Yes, there may be a few jobs that demand undisturbed focus throughout the day, but I’d wager those instances are rare—especially right now, as many employers are showing increased understanding of work-life integration.
For Sarah and me, we’ve discovered an effective routine: she works with our younger two children in the mornings, as their workload is lighter, which allows her to focus on her job by early afternoon. Meanwhile, I help Ethan, who is self-sufficient but often needs accountability. We set up a desk in his room, and every morning we strategize his tasks, breaking down his day and timing each assignment. I periodically check in on him, reminding him to stay focused. When I have a Zoom meeting, I close the door and expect him to remain on task, though the results can be hit or miss. Regardless, I usually manage to get him back on track after my meeting concludes.
By lunchtime, all the kids are typically done with their schoolwork and enjoying some outdoor playtime.
Working alongside Sarah on our kids’ education has strengthened my bond with them, especially with Ethan, and has positively impacted our marriage. Don’t get me wrong; I would prefer to be back in the office and see the kids back in school. However, collaborating on our children’s education has helped us recognize our parenting strengths and weaknesses, allowing us to thrive as co-parents.
Life right now feels like a blend of family, work, and school—each element thrown into a blender and mixed together. Each day, I find myself uncertain about which family member will pop into my online meetings or who will need assistance with a math problem or a snack. Like everyone else, I’m trying to balance my professional responsibilities while being present as a parent. But guess what? It’s manageable, and that’s why it’s unfair to place the entire burden of homeschooling on your partner.
So, gentlemen, I know this article is published on a site called Home Insemination Kit. Your partner might mention it to you, and you may feel defensive, but that’s not my intention. What I’m encouraging is for you to sit down with your partner and discuss how you can assist with homeschooling. Don’t hide away in a distant part of the house—be proactive. Review the schedule, understand what’s required, and identify ways you can help. It’s not as daunting as it seems, and it won’t jeopardize your job. In fact, it could be one of the best decisions for your family and your relationship.
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Summary
This article emphasizes the importance of fathers actively participating in homeschooling while working from home. It shares personal experiences to illustrate how parents can work together to balance their professional and educational responsibilities. The author encourages dads to engage with their partners in planning and contributing to their children’s education, stressing the mutual stress both parents face and the benefits of collaboration.