To all the incredible single moms out there, here’s a hard-earned lesson I’ve gathered over nearly 17 years of motherhood: Don’t wait for someone else to make Mother’s Day special. To your kids, it may just be another day; moms rarely take a break, and partners may not intuitively know what you want. So, take the reins and create your own celebration.
In the past, I often found myself feeling let down because I didn’t express what I wanted for this day. That led to a lot of disappointment. After my ex-husband moved out three years ago, I realized that if I wanted Mother’s Day to feel meaningful, I needed to take initiative. This small shift in mindset has made a significant impact. As a single mom, I refuse to wallow in self-pity; instead, I’ve learned that I can determine whether this day is amazing or lackluster. Choosing to prioritize myself has been a game changer, and I encourage you to do the same.
Remember, it’s not selfish to put yourself first. It’s essential to avoid unmet expectations and the resentment that can follow. I will never forget to celebrate myself on this day—it’s the least I deserve. And honestly, I often wonder why I didn’t start doing this sooner. I am worthy, I deserve joy, and I won’t forget that—especially this year.
Single moms, please do not overlook your needs this Mother’s Day. Whether we’re facing a pandemic or not, your well-being matters. This year has brought challenges for everyone, and we all cope in our own ways. I’ve caught myself thinking that I didn’t need to celebrate Mother’s Day or treat myself to anything special this year. But then I remember how much happiness I get from taking my kids out for sushi or enjoying a movie together. Even if it’s just takeout and a cozy movie night at home, I’m going to do what makes me happy.
Last week, I treated myself to my favorite mascara and eyeliner, which should arrive just in time for Mother’s Day. It’s my gift to myself, and I’m excited about it! This year may feel vastly different, and it might seem easier to ignore the day, but celebrations don’t have to be extravagant. While we can’t enjoy a fancy brunch out, you might have a favorite meal you’d like your kids to prepare for you—or one you’d like to make yourself. Go for it.
If there’s a pair of earrings you’ve been eyeing on Amazon, order them. Or perhaps you need some time to yourself. Let your family know you’re taking a break: light a candle, play your favorite music, take a relaxing bath, or dive into a good book. A little solitude can work wonders for your mental health.
You’ve likely been longing to treat yourself, which you absolutely deserve, especially when outings are limited. Consider purchasing a gift certificate from your favorite local spa or beauty salon for future pampering. Give yourself something to look forward to!
Don’t let this day slip by unnoticed. If you do, it’s likely to blend into the next day, and that can’t happen. Single moms, you deserve to be uplifted and celebrated. You deserve at least one day—whether it’s a whole afternoon or just a few moments—to acknowledge your contributions and everything you do for your family.
Click that “add to cart” button, buckle your kids up for a fast-food treat, or spend an afternoon with a beloved book while giving your kids free rein with their devices. I know that feeling cherished on Mother’s Day can be challenging, especially without a partner to plan a celebration. But let this year mark the beginning of a new tradition. Whatever it is, make sure to honor yourself this year. Even when we’re busy and preoccupied, it’s crucial to give ourselves some love—now more than ever.
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Summary
This piece encourages single moms to take charge of their Mother’s Day celebrations. It emphasizes the importance of self-care and prioritizing personal joy, regardless of circumstances. By treating themselves and acknowledging their worth, single moms can create meaningful traditions and ensure they feel valued on this special day.