As a lactation counselor, my journey into supporting new mothers began with my own challenging experience with breastfeeding. Unlike many who might share heartwarming tales of their path to this profession, my motivation stemmed from the difficulties I faced while trying to nurse my daughter. My core message to mothers is simple: they deserve unwavering support, regardless of how they choose to feed their babies.
Before giving birth, I immersed myself in research: attending classes, reading extensively, and consulting with experts. I was well-prepared for the birthing process, though admittedly, I felt a mix of excitement and anxiety about the delivery itself. I opted for an unmedicated birth, which I look back on fondly as the highlight of my experience.
However, the aftermath was a different story. As I held my newborn in my arms while being wheeled to my postpartum room, the hospital touted its “baby-friendly” status. Although many healthcare providers were kind, some policies and attitudes proved detrimental to both my daughter and me.
I had prepared for childbirth, but I neglected to consider the postpartum challenges. I assumed breastfeeding would come naturally—after all, it’s a biological function, right? Yet, while breastfeeding is indeed natural, it is not always easy.
In the following days at the hospital, I faced numerous struggles. Despite my efforts to hold my baby skin-to-skin and offer her the breast every couple of hours, she struggled to latch on. I was frustrated and worried, especially when jaundice developed due to her inability to feed effectively. This condition can pose serious health risks if not addressed, as newborns eliminate excess bilirubin through their stool, which only occurs when they are properly fed.
When I finally met with the lactation consultant, she provided minimal assistance. She handed me a nipple shield and left before ensuring my baby could latch properly. The nurse’s increasing frustration only added to my stress, implying that formula feeding was a failure on my part. I requested a breast pump, but it was initially denied, with the nurse insisting that using a bottle would prevent my baby from breastfeeding effectively. Eventually, I received a pump and, after a struggle, managed to express milk, providing my daughter with her first nourishing feed.
This difficult chapter in my life prompted me to become a Certified Lactation Counselor, determined to ensure that no other mother would endure such a challenging experience alone. Throughout my education, I encountered skepticism from some lactation professionals who disapproved of my pumping. I also faced judgment from other mothers who questioned my choices. Nevertheless, my dedication to providing my daughter with breast milk remained unwavering.
It is crucial to understand that formula is a valid and healthy alternative for mothers who cannot or choose not to breastfeed. Shaming mothers for their feeding choices can endanger their babies’ health and contribute to maternal mental health issues, including postpartum depression.
Moms are striving to provide the best care for their little ones, and that should be acknowledged, not criticized. So, the next time you see a mother feeding her baby from a bottle or pumping, offer her a smile and understanding. Breastfeeding is a beautiful experience for those who can do it, but for those who cannot, shame serves no purpose and can cause significant harm.
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Summary
Pressuring new moms to breastfeed can lead to harmful consequences for both the mother and baby. As a Certified Lactation Counselor, I advocate for supporting all feeding choices without judgment. Each mother deserves to make informed decisions that suit her circumstances, and a compassionate approach can help alleviate the stress associated with feeding choices.