I have a little confession. I keep a secret supply of ice cream just for myself. Yes, I’ve shed a tear when my partner finished off the last scoop of chocolate brownie ice cream, and honestly, it could be a deal breaker for our relationship. So, I got my own stash, tucked it away in the back of the freezer, and indulge after the kids are tucked in for the night. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not denying my children their ice cream. But I refuse to scrub their pajamas in Shout every time they enjoy dessert. Until they can eat an ice cream cone without making a sticky mess, it’s vanilla for them.
Sometimes, I do feel a pang of guilt for sneaking my ice cream away from my own kids. However, the guilt I feel now is nothing compared to the shame I used to experience while devouring a half-gallon of my roommate’s Häagen-Dazs when she wasn’t home.
I battled a binge-restrict cycle from the age of 15, and it took me over a decade to understand what was happening. I often reflect on the wise words of the non-diet dietitians I admire: guilt and shame should never accompany food—unless you stole it! Think about it for a moment: if you’re feeling bad for exceeding your “points” or because you’re meant to be following a trendy diet like keto or paleo, it’s time to reassess your perspective.
Here’s the Truth About Diets
Here’s the truth—diets simply don’t work. When you deny yourself the things you truly desire, it only intensifies your cravings. You are not the problem; the diet is.
Feel free to label it a lifestyle change, but if you find yourself creating food rules, then yes, my friend, you’re still on a diet. If these rules lead you to feel like a failure for having a cookie after 8 p.m. or for enjoying a real bread sandwich, then it’s a diet, regardless of the name you give it.
Finding a Healthier Approach
So, if diets are ineffective, how can one achieve weight loss? The reality is that actively chasing weight loss can be detrimental to your health. The psychological burden, feelings of shame, and self-doubt that often accompany this pursuit can be harmful. Instead, focus on nourishing your body and moving in ways that promote your well-being—regardless of your body size.
If you find yourself struggling with binge eating or feel out of control around food, I highly recommend seeking support. The anti-diet movement is growing, and there are professionals ready to help you find peace with food. If you haven’t yet explored the book Health At Every Size, I urge you to do so! It truly transformed my life.
Protecting Future Generations
Now that I have two little daughters, I am determined to protect them from society’s obsession with thinness for as long as possible. I celebrate all body types and emphasize the qualities that make them unique—like their kindness, humor, and yes, even their sass.
Research supports the idea of prioritizing health over weight, and embracing this approach can help you reclaim your life from diet culture. And speaking of indulgences, who’s in the mood for some ice cream? I’d be happy to share!
Additional Resources
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Conclusion
In summary, giving up dieting has been a liberating experience. Prioritizing a healthy relationship with food and body image over restrictive diets not only enhances my well-being but also allows me to model a positive attitude for my daughters.