I still remember the moment I realized that knees could be a source of insecurity. I was chatting with a friend over coffee in our 30s when she sighed and confessed, “I really don’t like my knees.” Until then, I had never considered that knees could even be a problem! But that comment planted a seed of doubt in my mind.
A decade ago, I was quite relieved to discover a variety of shorts that extended beyond the knee. With the onset of age-related weight, “mom weight,” and the usual food indulgences, I had begun feeling self-conscious. While I practice yoga and walk regularly, I found myself comparing my late-30s legs to the flawless limbs of teenagers passing by. So, I opted for those so-called Mom Shorts—those styles that fall just past the knee. Initially, I accepted this fashion choice as my fate.
However, lately, I’ve noticed many women in their mid-40s confidently wearing actual shorts! I see all lengths available in stores, some that seem too short for anyone, yet they look fabulous on those who wear them. We all have our own thoughts about strangers, often kind but sometimes critical, yet I’ve never once thought, “She really should hide those knees.”
This summer, my family and I are headed to Spain. My siblings, their little ones, and my dad will all be joining. One thing I know about Europeans is that they embrace a style that often defies the excessive modesty we carry. I can just picture myself wandering around in long mom shorts and oversized tees—looking like a walking embodiment of American anxieties. Honestly, that’s not the vibe I want to project.
And really, why am I still fretting over my knees? This isn’t about having a sculpted stomach or flawless skin; we’re talking knees here! Am I going to start wearing long sleeves all the time because I’m self-conscious about my elbows?
So, I made the leap. I browsed online and ordered several pairs of shorts that hit above the knee. Today, I decided to try on a pair for the first time.
“Is the world going to end if my knees are out in the open?” I asked my partner, Mark.
“If it does, then so be it,” he replied.
“Not quite the reassurance I was looking for.”
“Oh, right. I don’t think anything will happen,” he chuckled.
The truth is, he didn’t even notice the change. To him, I’m still the same woman he loves, regardless of what I wear.
Now, I’m curious to see how I perceive myself as I step out on this warm summer morning in my new “normal” shorts. I’m not diving in headfirst just yet; today, I’ll wear the new shorts for a bit, and tomorrow, I might retreat back to my comfort zone. But come our trip to Spain? I’m ready to embrace the adventure!
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Summary
In this piece, I reflect on my evolving relationship with fashion and body confidence, specifically regarding the transition from Mom Shorts to more daring styles. With an upcoming family trip to Spain, I’m ready to embrace my appearance and shed unnecessary insecurities.
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