Pregnancy after the age of 40 comes with its own unique set of experiences. For many, including myself, this phase can feel like a miraculous transformation, complete with a so-called “pregnancy glow” that rivals any beauty treatment. However, one aspect that remains constant regardless of age is the unsolicited comments from well-meaning strangers. Here are the top five things to avoid saying to a mama-to-be in her 40s:
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“I know someone who had an ‘Oops Baby’ too.”
Let’s not jump to conclusions, shall we? Finding out you’re pregnant after 40 often involves a lot of careful planning and consideration. It’s not exactly like ordering takeout. To put it mildly, this pregnancy has been orchestrated with the precision of a space mission.
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“Did you know you’ll be nearly 60 when your child graduates?”
Wait, what?! Yes, I can count, and trust me, I’ve done more than enough math during the conception phase (as previously mentioned). Just imagine how vibrant I’ll look at my child’s graduation! Everyone will marvel at my energy and zest for life.
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“You’re really starting over, huh?”
Oh, how astute of you to notice! Because there couldn’t possibly be a more nuanced reason for the age gap between my children. Surely, it couldn’t be career aspirations, personal challenges, or a desire to create a stronger family bond. Nope, I’m simply looking to trade in my older models.
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“Your body isn’t 20 anymore.”
Thanks for the reminder, Captain Obvious. I’ve had two decades to come to terms with that fact. But let’s consider that those years bring invaluable experience, patience, and confidence to the table. Not quite a college fund, but I’m definitely collecting priceless assets for my little one.
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“You’re almost old enough to be a grandmother!”
Last I checked, becoming a grandmother is determined by who your children are, not your own age. My mother would fiercely defend her role as a grandmother and is beyond excited for this new addition to the family.
As the saying goes, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” A mama-to-be in her 40s is likely well aware of her age and the implications of starting a family. She probably has thought deeply about the journey of parenthood and would love to share her insights if you’re open to listening. If not, perhaps you can compliment her on that radiant pregnancy glow instead.
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In summary, being pregnant after 40 is a remarkable journey filled with unique challenges and joys. It’s essential to approach these conversations with respect and understanding.