Let’s face it: few people feel thrilled about visiting the doctor for a pelvic exam. The process of exposing such intimate areas to a stranger can be uncomfortable, especially for those with a history of trauma. However, one pelvic floor therapist is sending a powerful message: it’s time to stop apologizing.
Kristin Thompson, a pelvic floor physiotherapist from Virginia, emphasizes that there’s no need to apologize for how our vulvas and vaginas look or smell during an exam. “All vulvas are unique,” she says, “and there’s no such thing as a ‘perfect’ one.” She passionately advocates for embracing and celebrating our bodies just as they are.
In her viral Facebook post, Thompson shared a collage of diverse vulvas, emphasizing their beauty and variety. She noted how frequently she hears women apologize for things like body hair or scent during her physical therapy sessions. “It breaks my heart to hear people with vaginas say, ‘I’m sorry I didn’t shave,’” she lamented.
Thompson recognizes the societal pressures that contribute to these feelings. “Everywhere you look, there are ads promoting hair removal or products that promise a ‘sweet’ scent,” she points out. She also highlights the double standards in how we view male and female bodies. “Men don’t apologize for their hairy bodies; why should women?”
She connects these issues to broader societal norms, stating, “This is patriarchy at work, keeping us from embracing our bodies. When we’re busy worrying about appearance, we’re not out there challenging the systems that make us feel inadequate.”
Her message resonates deeply, and the overwhelming positive response to her post shows that many individuals are eager for change. Even the negative comments fueled her passion, as she realized just how important this conversation is. “If my words can help even one person accept their body, it’s worth it,” she expressed.
While it may take time to overcome the notion that our bodies should conform to unrealistic standards, Thompson encourages everyone to stop apologizing for their bodies—during medical exams or any other time. “Vaginas are meant to smell like vaginas,” she reminds us, reinforcing that natural body scents and hair are completely normal.
It’s important to note that grooming choices are personal. If you prefer a hairless look, that’s perfectly fine, as long as it’s for you and not out of obligation. However, Thompson cautions against ignoring potential health issues; unusual smells should be discussed with a qualified healthcare provider.
Ultimately, Thompson’s message is about self-acceptance. “Your worth is defined by your heart and soul, not by your vulva’s appearance,” she asserts.
Embracing our bodies, regardless of their imperfections, is a journey. Seeking supportive and understanding healthcare providers can make a significant difference. And remember, it is possible to learn to love your body, starting with the simple act of stopping the apologies.
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Summary
Kristin Thompson, a pelvic floor therapist, encourages individuals with vaginas to stop apologizing for their bodies, emphasizing the uniqueness and beauty of each vulva. She highlights societal pressures and double standards that contribute to negative feelings about body image and advocates for self-acceptance. By refraining from apologies, individuals can begin to embrace their bodies and challenge the norms that make them feel inadequate.