Yes, I Bought Condoms for My Son

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My eldest son is now sixteen and has a girlfriend. It feels like just yesterday I was bringing home that tiny bundle from the hospital, and now here he is, navigating the complexities of teenage romance. I can’t help but reminisce about his childhood—those days when the greatest challenge was signing him up for t-ball. Time has flown by, and I find myself grappling with the reality that my little boy is growing up.

When I was sixteen, I had my first serious boyfriend, and my mother took me to the doctor for birth control. Looking back, I realize how challenging that must have been for her. Many parents naturally want to shield their children from the realities of adulthood, wishing to keep them innocent and safe. It’s heart-wrenching to let go little by little as they forge their own paths.

As much as I wish I could keep my son tethered to my side, I know that’s unrealistic. He is learning to make choices that will shape his future. I can only hope that my partner and I have instilled in him the values necessary for sound decision-making.

It was during a dinner with two close friends that the conversation turned serious. With my son having a girlfriend and being at a certain age, they emphasized the importance of having “the talk” and ensuring he had condoms. My initial reaction was one of horror. I remembered my mother’s approach, but I wasn’t ready for this moment with my son.

Still, the more I thought about it, the more I recognized their wisdom. I could deny his interest in sex, convince myself that their relationship was innocent, or I could face reality. The truth was that if I didn’t address this, I could be risking a lot—two young lives could be changed forever.

So I had the birth control talk with my son. It was a straightforward, albeit shaky, discussion. He looked at me as if a deer caught in headlights. Despite our conversation, I knew that if he ever decided to be sexually active, he might not have the confidence or means to acquire condoms himself. It only takes one time for things to go awry.

During my next trip to Target, I was mentally preparing to buy condoms. However, as I approached the aisle, I froze. The colorful packaging seemed to mock me. Finally, after weeks of avoidance, I braved the aisle. My heart raced as I glanced around to make sure no one was watching. When I reached the condoms, my anxiety peaked. The names on the boxes were overwhelming—”Pleasure Pack,” “Ribbed for Her Pleasure,” and more. I was not ready to think about my son having “fun.”

After much deliberation, I chose the plain, no-frills pack of condoms—36 of them—not because I wanted him to use them frequently, but because I wanted to avoid this aisle again. I tossed them into my cart along with mundane items like paper towels and cereal, and headed to the checkout. My heart pounded as I placed them on the conveyor belt, feeling vulnerable and exposed.

Once home, I discreetly placed the box on a high shelf in his bathroom cabinet. I sent him a message, keeping it simple yet straightforward:

“Hey, Son,
There’s a bag on a high shelf in your bathroom cabinet. Inside, you’ll find a box of condoms. I know this is awkward, and believe me, it was no easier for me to buy them than it is for you to read this. But at your age, I care about your well-being and want to make sure you’re protected. This isn’t permission from Dad or me; I hope you will wait. But I understand you’ll make your own choices, just as I did. Please use your judgment and be responsible.”

I included a link to an informative video on how to use a condom. It was a relief to put that out there, even if we haven’t spoken of it since. I catch glimpses of that bag in his bathroom occasionally, and I know I made the right decision.

This experience reminded me of the importance of communication in parenting. For more insights on navigating tricky conversations with kids, check out this other blog post we have. And if you’re considering options for family planning, reputable retailers like Make a Mom offer at-home insemination syringe kits, which could be helpful. For further reading on the topic of artificial insemination, this Wikipedia page is an excellent resource.

In short, parenting involves uncomfortable discussions, but they are necessary for our children’s well-being and future.


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