Updated: June 18, 2019
Originally Published: June 18, 2019
I found myself in the waiting area of my daughter’s dance studio, ready to unwind while my husband managed our other three kids at home. Just as I settled in with my book, three energetic little girls dashed past me, giggling and weaving between chairs. Two of them looked around kindergarten age, with the third being a toddler.
They continued their chaotic play, treating the waiting room like their personal playground, climbing on tables piled with brochures and snacks. I was shocked—not by their noise or energy, which I have come to expect as a parent of four—but by the absence of any supervising adults.
The girls bumped into a child whose father was trying to navigate his family through the doorway, and nearly collided with an elderly woman sitting nearby. Their ruckus was so loud that even my earbuds couldn’t drown it out. For a solid forty-five minutes, they held an unauthorized circus performance that involved plenty of audience participation. It seemed like they were out of sight and, thus, out of mind for their parents.
At dismissal time, two women emerged from the back hall, coffee in hand, engaged in quiet conversation. They glanced at the rambunctious girls who were now punching a decorative inflatable and simply said it was time to leave. Just like that, the girls were gone, leaving behind a mess.
Driving home, I reflected on the importance of teaching my children R-E-S-P-E-C-T. After spending nine years teaching college freshmen, I often encountered students who believed any bad grades were the result of my unfairness. They claimed I didn’t like them or that my expectations were too high. One student even missed three consecutive classes because he had to take his injured pet lizard to the vet, then asked if he had missed anything important!
These were the same students who would stroll into class late, disrupting both their peers and me, all while their parents would call me up, angry about their children’s failing grades. What I couldn’t tell them, due to privacy policies, was that their kids hadn’t even shown up for weeks.
Being a college instructor provided insight into the consequences of a lack of respect for others and shared spaces. Children who don’t learn these values can grow into young adults who feel entitled and lack basic interpersonal skills.
I understand that parenting is a tough job. With four kids myself, I know it’s anything but easy. While we should extend grace and empathy to others when their children misbehave, this doesn’t mean we can ignore our parental responsibilities. We can let kids enjoy their childhood without raising them to be inconsiderate individuals.
So, no, my kids aren’t allowed to run wild. They face consequences for their actions, and they don’t dictate the rules. I know what you’re thinking—raising respectful kids is easier said than done. Absolutely! Parenting involves trial and error, but it’s crucial to make the effort.
Whenever I take my kids somewhere—like a friend’s house—we always talk about what to expect and what I expect from them. Sure, they might roll their eyes, but that doesn’t stop me.
Teaching Manners
First and foremost, we discuss manners. Basic phrases like “please” and “thank you” are essential. When meeting someone new, they should maintain eye contact and introduce themselves clearly. If they need something, they should ask politely. If they make a mistake, they must apologize.
Respecting Spaces
Next, we emphasize respecting other people’s spaces. Be it in a business, a public park, or someone’s home, it’s vital to know and follow the rules. When visiting a friend’s house, we ask whether we should take off our shoes. We offer to bring snacks to share, and before we leave, we clean up any messes and thank the host for their hospitality.
Consideration for Others
Additionally, I teach them to be considerate of others, especially those who are younger, older, or disabled. They should be mindful of where they’re going, hold doors open, and remain seated until everyone has finished eating.
Practicing these behaviors demonstrates respect not only for others but for themselves as well. Every person has value and deserves to be treated as such.
If we, as parents, neglect to instill these values now, we risk raising children who expect their future professors, partners, and employers to cater to their every whim. That’s not how the real world operates. Moreover, failing to teach our children basic manners can negatively affect those around us.
Parenting is undeniably challenging—exhausting, demanding, and relentless. Yet, we must persist in our efforts. Our children are worth it.
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Summary
Teaching children respect, manners, and consideration for others is essential for their development. Parents must take an active role in guiding their kids to behave appropriately in public spaces, ensuring they grow into responsible adults who value interpersonal relationships and community etiquette.