Category: Lifestyle
Written by: Lila Thompson
Updated: April 9, 2023
Originally Published: April 5, 2023
Recently, after attending a work-related gathering, I encountered a young girl selling handmade jewelry on the sidewalk. She was raising money to help her mother with a phone bill. Feeling a surge of generosity and empathy, I chose a bracelet adorned with a single word: FREE. This piece, made of blue knotted yarn, has become a constant reminder of my newfound independence after years of being part of a couple. It symbolizes my journey of rediscovery, helping me shift my mindset as I embrace life on my own terms.
While the process of divorce can be challenging and brings its own set of difficulties, particularly as a working parent, there are notable benefits to this new chapter in my life. Here are 21 reasons I celebrate my independence:
- Autonomy in Decision-Making
During my marriage, I often deferred to my partner’s preferences in household matters, from dinner choices to laundry organization. Now, I relish the freedom to make my own decisions. - Culinary Freedom
I can indulge in my favorite foods—like late-night Ben & Jerry’s—without worrying about disapproving glances or comments. - Financial Control
I no longer have to navigate unexpected expenses from joint purchases. Every dollar spent is mine to manage, allowing me to exercise full control over my finances. - Peaceful Nights
While loneliness can creep in, I no longer wait up at night for my partner to return. The uncertainty that once caused frustration is gone. - Less Household Chaos
Managing a busy household is easier without added clutter. I appreciate the neatness I can maintain without anyone else’s mess. - Freedom to Plan
My limited free time is mine alone. I no longer need to coordinate my schedule around someone else’s commitments. - No Need for Approval
In the past, I sought my partner’s validation, often feeling inadequate. Now, my own opinion is the only one that matters. - Personal Style Choices
I can dress for myself, buying what I like, even if my current budget is tight. - Self-Accountability
When I make mistakes, I own them without someone else pointing out my flaws or saying, “I told you so.” - Space to Breathe
I enjoy the extra room in my closet, on my bed, and in my life. Sleeping alone is a newfound comfort. - Control Over Entertainment
The TV remote is mine after the kids are tucked in. - Flexible Holidays
Holidays can be spent with my family or even entirely on my own terms when the kids are with their father. - Pacing My Life
I value punctuality and can now move at my own pace without accommodating others. - New Romantic Possibilities
The world of dating is open to me again, filled with potential connections, even if marriage isn’t on my horizon. - Defining Bedtime
I enjoy being able to unwind when the children settle down for the night, without distractions. - Lower Stress Levels
Being single has ushered in a more relaxed lifestyle. - Expressing Opinions Freely
I appreciate the tranquility that comes without constant debates over differing perspectives. - Pursuing Passions
I can engage in activities like writing or painting without reservation, allowing my creativity to flourish. - No Excuses for Others
I no longer need to justify another’s actions or decisions, freeing myself from that burden. - Taking the Wheel
Driving is now a source of empowerment, with no more anxiety about being a passenger. - Crafting My Own Future
While I cherish the journey that led to my children, I look forward to shaping my own destiny.
For far too long, I compromised my identity within my marriage. Now, I’m free, and that bracelet serves as a reminder of my independence. If you’re interested in exploring more about home insemination, check out this insightful blog post.
In summary, while divorce can be a daunting experience, it also offers a unique opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery. Embracing independence allows for a richer, more fulfilling life.