Recently, I came across a story about two elderly women who escaped from a nursing home to attend a heavy metal concert. At first, it seemed like a lighthearted tale, but it struck a deeper chord: “You Only Live Once,” right? So, I ask you, when was the last time you embraced the YOLO spirit? When did you last indulge in something solely for you, something you genuinely enjoy? Do you even remember what that feels like?
I had forgotten. Once I became a mom, my life revolved around attachment parenting, breastfeeding, and babywearing. My identity morphed into being “Mom.” Everything I did centered around my children—nurturing, loving, and enriching their lives. While I might have read a few parenting books, I neglected my own passions beyond the routine self-care that kept me sane. I was just Mama, and that seemed like enough… until it wasn’t.
As my children grew, I realized I had to rediscover who I was and fast. It was time to embrace the YOLO mindset. I began to understand that I could redefine myself. I could pursue whatever interests I had, regardless of others’ opinions.
So, I picked up new hobbies: sewing, crocheting, and even training my dog. I stopped pretending to enjoy shows that didn’t resonate with me. Instead, I embraced my eclectic taste in TV, which mostly includes quirky sci-fi series that some might find odd. I also started wearing my collection of Harry Potter shirts and homemade skirts with pride.
Taking care of my kids is fulfilling, but I craved more. I needed an identity that extended beyond just being a mother. I didn’t want to look back and realize that my life had been limited to crafting glitter slime and attending playdates.
Many mothers tend to lose themselves in motherhood, becoming solely defined by their roles as “Mom.” But it’s crucial to remember that you’re more than just a caregiver; you need to live for yourself too. Pursue what you love without worrying about societal expectations.
A dear friend of mine faced a similar struggle. She wasn’t into crafts or outdoor activities but eventually discovered happiness and fulfillment when she decided to become a foster parent. By finding a cause that resonated with her, she unearthed an identity beyond just her two children.
YOLO isn’t just about extreme adventures; it’s also about savoring the little moments that bring joy to your life. Whether it’s gardening, cooking, or even dyeing your hair a wild color, you owe it to yourself to explore these passions. Maybe you’ve always wanted to stick a unicorn sticker on your car or bake something ridiculously extravagant—do it!
Remember, you need to have something that’s just yours. Whether it’s creating art, indulging in classic films, or even trying your hand at Zumba, you must engage in activities that excite you. Your kids will grow up, and if you don’t nurture your own interests, you might find yourself feeling empty.
So, go ahead and indulge in that coconut cake. Keep a journal of your daily joys. Plant a garden or take up ballet. Life is too short to live solely for others. Be true to yourself, and don’t hesitate to express your individuality. Your children will benefit from seeing you thrive, and you’ll find yourself blossoming into a more fulfilled version of you. Embrace that unicorn sticker on your minivan.
In summary, being a mom is just one facet of who you are. YOLO—seize the day, pursue your passions, and create a life rich with experiences that are uniquely yours.