I still vividly recall a playdate from eight years ago. My eldest child was a toddler, and I was expecting my daughter. I had already encountered several hurdles in parenting: the disappointment of unsuccessful breastfeeding, the frustration of my baby not sleeping through the night at one year, and let’s not even get started on potty training.
However, I thought I had behavior and discipline under control. My son, at that time, was the picture of calmness. He sat quietly in the corner, leafing through books, stacking blocks, and gently pushing toy trains along the tracks. He never dreamed of climbing furniture or launching toys across the room.
But many other kids didn’t share that same serene demeanor, and I found myself shaking my head in disapproval. How could mothers let their children leap from couches or wrestle with other kids? What was wrong with those children? What was wrong with their moms?
A few months later, my daughter was born, and she mirrored her older brother’s temperament—well-behaved and relatively calm. I had seen my share of wild children, yet I perched atop my judgmental pedestal, feeling secure because my kids were so well-mannered.
Then life decided to teach me a lesson. My third child arrived, a boy who would turn my parenting world upside down. From the moment he began to walk, I recognized the challenge ahead. When he threw a book at my head during storytime and devised a plan to stack stools to reach cookies on the counter, I realized karma was knocking at my door.
Understanding the Challenges
To all the moms raising what society deems “rowdy kids,” I sincerely apologize. I now understand what it’s like to have a child who struggles to control his energy and volume. I know the sting of judgmental glances from fellow shoppers when my son climbs out of the cart or knocks over a display in the store. I’ve sat in the back of church, ready to leap into action at a moment’s notice, as my youngest roams the pews, completely oblivious to the concept of whispering.
He’s the child who scales the slide backward and skips ahead in line for cupcakes. He’s also the one who might accidentally shatter your cherished vase. (Please, no more invitations if you have valuables on display.)
A Lesson from the Pediatrician
At a recent checkup, I watched him bounce off the examining table repeatedly while plotting a chair-stacking game. Our pediatrician, noticing my exasperation, reassured me, “He’s a healthy, normal little boy.” I was baffled. After having two kids who were attentive and well-behaved, I struggled to comprehend my youngest’s lack of regard for consequences. The doctor explained that his brain was at a developmental stage where understanding consequences came only after the fact. Just like teenagers often make impulsive decisions due to their brain development, young children can behave similarly.
This revelation was enlightening, though challenges remain. I learned that my son isn’t a bad kid; he simply expresses himself differently. If he accidentally hits you with a light saber, he’s inviting you to join in the fun. If he cuts in line, it’s not malice—just a spontaneous decision. In fact, he’s likely to grab an extra cupcake to share.
Embracing the Chaos
Most importantly, I’ve come to appreciate that moms of spirited kids are doing their absolute best. We discipline them and try earnestly, but we also recognize their unique needs. My son can’t sit still for long, which is why he’s often up and down during meals. I’ve learned not to expect the impossible from him. A couple of books and a sticker sheet won’t hold his attention; my “no” count for him is significantly higher than for his siblings.
In our family, we now plan outings with his needs in mind; we seek environments where he can move freely and express himself loudly. If that’s not possible, we adjust our plans accordingly. He has plenty of time to learn to be quiet and still. For now, he’s busy building forts, jumping off furniture, and living life at full volume—while also giving me a few gray hairs in the process.
Conclusion
In summary, embracing the chaos of spirited children has transformed my parenting approach. I no longer judge those moms trying to keep their wild kids in check. Instead, I’ve learned to celebrate their efforts and recognize that every child is unique.
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