Every day during our drive home, I ask my kiddos, “How was your day?” To my dismay, their standard response is always, “Good.” And that’s it—nothing more. Determined to change this, I devised a two-step strategy to encourage meaningful conversations.
The first part of my plan involved a bold move: I eliminated all electronics from our dinner table. No TVs, phones, or tablets—absolutely nothing. Honestly, I should have made this change ages ago, as our dinners had turned into solo device time. The kids were not pleased, and I can assure you there were some tears. However, this decision has transformed our mealtime into a time for genuine connection and engaging dialogue. The first phase of my plan was a resounding success.
The second part aimed to dive deeper into conversation, steering beyond mere complaints or casual chatter. I wanted to really know the wonderful little beings I’m nurturing. So, I started asking questions, much like you would when getting to know a new friend. After extensive research and brainstorming, I compiled a list of questions that have sparked incredible discussions. Some evenings, we spend the entire dinner simply going around the table asking these questions, which is far more rewarding than the alternative.
To help you create your own engaging mealtime conversations, here are some questions that have led to memorable discussions with my kids:
- What was the highlight of your day?
- What was the most challenging thing you faced today?
- Can you share a moment of kindness you showed someone?
- Who did you spend time with today, and what did you do together?
- What’s one significant change you’ve noticed between this year and last?
- How do the rules at school differ from those at home, and why do you think that is?
- Who do you sit with during lunch?
- Describe yourself in five words.
- What activity brings you the most happiness?
- What’s the best thing that has ever happened to you?
- What’s the most difficult experience you’ve had, and what lesson did you take from it?
- If you could visit your past self from three years ago, what advice would you give?
- What are you most thankful for?
- Who is your closest friend, and what do you appreciate about them?
- If you had the power to change something in the world, what would it be?
Remember, it’s essential to mix up your questions each time. Often, we find ourselves wrapped up in conversation and don’t even make it through the entire list, but those nights when we linger at the table are the most fulfilling. Feel free to use these questions or create your own, but ensure they’re positive and thought-provoking. Listening to their answers provides a fascinating glimpse into how they perceive the world.
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In summary, fostering open dialogue with your children can lead to deeper connections and insights. By incorporating thoughtful questions into your routine, you can transform everyday moments into meaningful conversations that enrich your family’s bond.