We’ve all experienced moments like this. Picture yourself in a long grocery store line, bouncing slightly to keep your baby, who’s snug in a carrier, asleep while simultaneously trying to entertain a toddler on the verge of a meltdown. Your older child has been nagging since morning, and all you can think about is how much you need a cup of coffee—and some peace and quiet.
Then, from behind you, an older woman lets out a nostalgic sigh. You glance back, momentarily making eye contact to check if she’s judging your toddler’s messy face. Instead, she says, “Oh, I remember those days. They pass by so quickly! My little ones are grown now. They’re only small for such a fleeting time. Savor every moment.” And just like that, you hear the most exasperating phrase imaginable for a mother with young children.
Most days, you feel utterly worn out. There are countless hours—sometimes even whole days—when parenting feels unbearable. So how are you supposed to “savor every moment” when some moments are downright exhausting?
As a mother whose youngest just turned nine, I can tell you that it’s impossible. And honestly, you shouldn’t even try to do it.
However, now that I’ve moved past those hectic years, I’ve gained a better understanding of what well-meaning people mean when they urge you to enjoy every moment. While not every second is magical—or even enjoyable—there are indeed moments that are special. Those unique experiences during this stage are powerful, and it’s essential to be fully present during them. Make a conscious effort to appreciate those fleeting instances and etch them into your memory.
It’s all too easy to become consumed by the daily grind of motherhood. The repetitive cycle of feeding, cleaning, and comforting can feel endless. When your little ones are throwing tantrums or turning your home into a disaster zone, you might find it hard to feel enthusiastic about parenting. We all wish every day could be filled with sunshine, snuggles, and sweet kisses, but the reality is often noise, mess, and fatigue, punctuated by bursts of joy.
These are the moments to truly cherish. And not just to enjoy, but to savor. Because the first time your son turns away when you lean in for a kiss, those treasured memories will help mend your heart. The day your daughter gets behind the wheel for the first time will be made easier by the recollections of her cuddling on your lap.
Yes, you may need a gentle reminder to treasure those sweet moments, especially when they smell of heaven and their laughter fills the air. When you’re standing in that grocery store, unshowered and overwhelmed, it’s easy to forget. I know that even though those older women’s words about “savoring every moment” sometimes annoyed me, they did echo in my mind during the delightful instances of my children’s early years. Thanks to that reminder, I made the most of those cherished moments.
If I see you in a similar situation, I’ll strive to offer a more nuanced perspective, perhaps saying something like, “I remember those days—they’re challenging yet so rewarding. The days may feel long, but the years are short. Try to soak in the moments when they’re calm and happy. You may not miss everything about this phase, but you will long for the softness of their skin, their uninhibited love, and those delightful giggles. Hold onto those memories. Enjoy them when you can. And remember that, believe it or not, one day you’ll feel like yourself again.”
Or maybe I’ll just smile and say, “You’re doing great, mama. Keep it up.”
You certainly don’t have to enjoy every second of motherhood at any stage; no one can. However, it’s vital to make the most of those precious moments when they arise. Time really does fly by, and you’ll cherish every moment you consciously appreciate.
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Summary
This article explores the intent behind the common phrase “savor every moment” often shared by older parents with those currently navigating the challenges of raising young children. It emphasizes that while not every moment is enjoyable, there are precious instances to cherish. By being present and appreciating the fleeting nature of childhood, parents can create lasting memories.