As a parent, fear is an inevitable companion. The worries range from minor ailments to significant dangers, and as soon as you become a guardian, it feels like you’re navigating a perilous landscape. With the rise of movements like #MeToo, the landscape of parental fears has transformed, adding new dimensions to our concerns. I find myself anxious about the safety of my daughter and the values instilled in my son, both of whom are just over 18 months apart. The challenge is to equip them with wisdom to traverse this complex world.
For My Daughter:
- Embrace Rudeness When Necessary. While I will instill good manners in you, there are times when standing your ground is essential. Never allow someone to disrespect you simply because you want to avoid hurting their feelings. Rudeness can be justified when it comes to protecting your dignity.
- Stay True to Yourself. Never downplay any part of who you are for the comfort of a man. Whether it’s your intellect, your beauty, or your assertiveness, don’t alter your essence. This is your narrative, and you should own it without apology.
- Your Voice is Always Valid. Even if you don’t speak up immediately about something that feels wrong, it does not lessen your right to express yourself. Your voice has no expiration date; you can share your truth whenever you are ready.
- Cultivate Genuine Friendships. Avoid the stereotype that female friendships must be competitive. Surrounding yourself with strong, supportive women will create a network of allies who will uplift you and help you navigate challenges.
- Consent is Non-Negotiable. Always assert your right over your body. Your decisions regarding consent are yours alone, and you should never feel pressured to compromise.
For My Son:
- Understand the Weight of Words. Dismissing misogyny as “locker room talk” is harmful. Such attitudes, even in private settings, can shape your worldview into one that objectifies women.
- Consent is Ongoing. Remember, consent extends beyond a simple “yes.” If a girl appears uncomfortable, it’s crucial to pause. Her feelings can change, and respecting that is vital.
- Be an Ally. If you witness harassment or misconduct, it’s important to speak up. Your voice can empower those who may feel unable to defend themselves, and confronting bad behavior is essential, even at personal risk.
- Use Respectful Language. Avoid derogatory terms like “bitch.” Such language is not only disrespectful but perpetuates a culture that diminishes women. Choose your words wisely; they hold power.
- Choose Your Company Wisely. Surround yourself with men who respect women and understand the seriousness of consent and assault. Friends who objectify women are not true friends.
In this journey of parenting, fear remains a constant, but imparting these lessons to my children is a way to transform that fear into empowerment. For additional insights on home insemination and fertility, you can check out this excellent resource and explore more about self insemination options or guidance on impregnator kits.
In summary, as a parent, my goal is to prepare my daughter and son to navigate the complexities of life with strength, integrity, and respect for themselves and others.