Parenting
By Alex Thompson
Date: January 10, 2018
While I grasped the logic behind purchasing a minivan, I couldn’t shake the feeling that it made me resemble a stereotypical, middle-aged dad—a role I indeed fit into, but one I didn’t want to visually represent. I still crave that sense of youth and vitality, wanting to be perceived as cool or attractive. I’m settled in my marriage and career, yet I yearn to feel unencumbered. This internal conflict was my struggle with the idea of buying a minivan.
Opting for a minivan felt like relinquishing something undefined—perhaps my youth or my appeal. As I drove to the dealership, I was anxious. I told myself it was merely the weight of making a significant financial decision, but deep down, I knew there was more to it.
Our first minivan, a Mazda, was purchased from a town 30 miles away. The drive home was a mix of regret and disappointment. I couldn’t help but wish we had chosen a larger car or an SUV—something with four-wheel drive that felt a bit more adventurous. However, with three kids, squeezing them all into our small sedan felt like a circus act. The reality was that while I avoided looking too nerdy in our car, it wasn’t practical—much like many things that are considered “cool.”
As we grow older, practicality often supersedes the pursuit of coolness. My decisions increasingly revolve around what makes the most sense. For instance, when my favorite punk band, The Rebels, reunited in Chicago, I genuinely contemplated attending. Yet, I quickly dismissed the idea, knowing I would return home with a sore back and the guilt of spending money we were saving for Christmas. The thought of telling my kids, “We had plans for a wonderful holiday, but Dad spent our budget on a concert and now needs back surgery,” felt like a selfish move.
These are the types of choices that define parenthood. We weigh what is best for our family, even if it means sacrificing a concert or settling for a minivan to transport our kids to soccer practice.
Ultimately, just two weeks into owning the minivan, I realized something important: despite feeling like an old man driving it, I had never been more at ease traveling with my children. We had ample space for their belongings, and I could position them far enough apart to avoid sibling squabbles. On rainy days, I could easily climb inside to buckle them up without getting drenched. The sliding doors made the process of getting in and out a breeze, eliminating the need for climbing over each other.
In hindsight, acquiring the minivan was a fantastic decision. While it feels like I’ve traded trendy attire for practical options like cargo shorts and comfy shoes, I can’t imagine life without it. This is the essence of adulting—it’s about embracing responsibilities and the reality of parenting, which often doesn’t manifest in the form of children themselves but rather in choices like buying a minivan. It’s about opting for comfort and practicality over style, which ultimately leads to a smoother experience for both you and your kids.
So, my suggestion? Embrace it. Don’t resist the change. Purchase the minivan—it’s worth it. You’re a parent now, so own that identity, even if it makes you feel a bit dorky.
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Summary
Buying a minivan often symbolizes the transition into practical adulthood for parents. While it may feel like a loss of youthfulness and coolness, the comfort and practicality it provides can significantly enhance family life. Embracing this change is essential for a smoother parenting experience, allowing for a focus on what truly matters: your family’s happiness.