This year, I’m setting clear boundaries. I’m determined not to feel pressured to create an extravagant holiday atmosphere. I refuse to let stress and anxiety dictate my celebrations—I’ve really made up my mind about this.
I keep reminding myself and have communicated my intentions to my kids, friends, and even the postman. I’ve let the delivery drivers know they won’t be making as many stops at my house this year. I mean it—I truly do.
This Christmas, I’m not going to feel the need to demonstrate my love through an overwhelming number of gifts. I won’t compare what others are giving their kids, either. In the past, I’ve ended up overwhelmed and frustrated instead of spreading joy, and it’s clear that drowning in material possessions doesn’t equate to love. It only brings chaos and regret.
That’s why I’ve grown fond of the ‘Want-Need-Wear-Read’ gift approach. Initially, I thought it was too minimalist for my family, but I’ve prepared everyone for a change this year. When my kids started sharing their Christmas lists back in September, I made it clear that things would be different than previous years. Initially, they were disappointed, as kids often are, but over time, it prompted them to really reconsider what they wanted most.
My partner and I are open to spending a bit more on a few meaningful gifts, but we want to avoid a mountain of items just for the sake of having a lot under the tree. By limiting the number of gifts, the shopping process becomes more manageable, and we can focus on creating special memories together as a family.
If you find yourself wrapped up in the frenzy of wanting to buy your kids everything, I totally understand. It’s a common feeling that often stems from our own childhood memories. However, we often purchase things our kids don’t even ask for, driven by the desire to have a certain number of presents to unwrap.
It’s definitely a challenge, and it sometimes feels like adults have a harder time controlling their excitement than the kids do, but the benefits are undeniable. I’ve already finished my shopping (yes, I’m bragging a little), and now I have the time to plan a fun holiday gathering, surprise my children with a Christmas performance, and enjoy baking and relaxing with them—activities that bring me far more joy than scrambling to find last-minute gifts.
My kids have also asked me what I want this year, and I told them I’d like the same things they’re getting. My list is much simpler: I hope for them to behave and not misbehave. I want to wear a smile because they are on their best behavior, and I want to see reports that reflect their good conduct at school.
The ‘Want-Need-Wear-Read’ concept truly benefits everyone during the holiday season. If you’re interested in exploring more about this approach, check out this post on our blog.
In summary, focusing on a limited number of meaningful gifts can make the holiday season more enjoyable and less stressful. By emphasizing quality over quantity, families can create lasting memories that go beyond material possessions.