As a parent, I don’t expect my children—or any children, for that matter—to display perfect manners at all times. They have many years ahead to learn the nuances of etiquette, and let’s be honest, even many adults aren’t well-versed in every rule of decorum. While I might not be offended by an elbow on the table or the occasional mouthful of food while someone speaks, I do think that certain fundamentals of politeness should be instilled early on.
It’s not difficult to teach kids basic manners unless, of course, you are still grappling with your own etiquette issues. Simple practices like saying “please” and “thank you,” holding doors for others, and using quieter voices in calm environments are lessons that even the youngest children can begin to understand.
Teaching good manners is a vital gift that will serve your children well throughout their lives. Let’s face it: a well-mannered individual is likely to have an easier time navigating social interactions compared to someone who lacks these skills. Those who demonstrate politeness create better first impressions and are more likely to be welcomed by teachers, employers, and friends. This positive interaction can significantly boost their self-esteem, too.
Moreover, teaching your kids to be courteous conveys a deeper message. It’s not just about adding “please” to requests; it’s about fostering respect and consideration for others. The way we treat people affects how they feel, and raising inconsiderate individuals benefits no one—not even the children themselves.
How to Combat Rudeness
So, how can we combat the prevalence of rudeness? By modeling good manners ourselves from the very beginning. When your child hands you something, even if it’s a soggy snack, say “thank you.” When ordering food or leaving a gathering, exhibit the behavior you wish to see in them. While it’s essential not to force them into these behaviors, gentle prompts can be helpful. Give them the space to respond to questions themselves rather than answering for them.
Should we expect perfection from our children? Absolutely not! Even my eldest, who is now 12, requires the occasional reminder. Kids forget, and if they didn’t, we wouldn’t have to remind them not to leave their socks on the floor. Adults forget too, as evidenced by the viral stories of rude behavior. These tales serve as a reminder of the importance of courtesy.
Consistency is key. By continuously providing a good example and gentle reminders, you can help your children internalize good manners, benefiting both them and everyone they meet. It doesn’t take much effort on our part, so let’s do everyone a favor and teach our kids how to treat others with respect.
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In summary, instilling good manners in children is a gift that lasts a lifetime, enhancing their social interactions and self-esteem while fostering a culture of respect and consideration.